You might also want to mention your sources since that plays a part. If you go up and get some of your requests you may lose some sub or even quantity/punch since many of the higher end buds go more towards neutral and may rely on more some power to get bass reach and quantity.
So, if someone just gives you a bud suggestion and they don't take source into consideration then you may not hear the same thing if they power it differently than you.
Have you experimented as well. No foams/different thickness foam, adding some impedance will speed and tighten bass but you don't want to go to much or it can slow and lessen the amount of bass. You may get some suggestions but unlikely no perfect matches so you most likely will still have to test and tweak.