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1. from my own trials, and I have no idea if it's solid advice or not (could be accidental correlation), I have found that the measures from people with the same head circumference or diameter from ear to ear, have consistently felt better (...)
2. when you say to not add crosstalk, you mean the crossfeed mixing in the convolution to place the speakers at 30degrees(or wherever it is they're placed)? or do you mean some specific method or filter to try and turn speakers in binaural ready stuff(I vaguely remember something like that exists but I don't remember what it is or does)?
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3. ambisonic (...) how we "tell" the DSP where the speakers are in the room or maybe their respective signatures?
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4. how do you get to implement binaural with the Realiser?
do they provide a method(like we place the speaker at 90 degree and disable the channel mixing in convolution? the binaural album counts on 2 sound sources at 90° on our head, not on 30° stereo speakers.
5. also if the record already has the HRTF impact of the dummy head (if one was used while recording), there is a problem as we end up with our HRTF and the dummy's in the same signal.
6. if the record is simply done with 2 mics separated by an average head distance then I guess it would be better. the difference in distance between the mics and our ear would make the sound source closer or farther away I guess, but not by much.
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7. when calibrating the A16 do we look down and up to get elevation cues if in a stereo configuration, or is it all done from a DSP model?
when extra speakers are really elevated, just left and right is enough to "get them" where they are, but with stereo speakers, isn't the calibration limited to looking at each speaker one at a time?
8. my gut feelings tell me that 2 channels as long as all was thought for such system, can be just as good or even better than multichannels. but that's the problem, almost nothing is done for binaural use and when it is, it's usually with no efforts to be used on a custom profile.
9. did I just write rubbish unrelated to what you said, or was that the gist of the question somehow by accident

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