With those criteria, I would definitely put the Shoer EJ07 and the Mangird Tea high on your list. Both are famous for their wonderful sounding midrange, and neither of them have harsh treble or harsh upper midrange. Neither of them are fatiguing.
Missing the sale may have been a blessing in disguise. As great as the S8 is, it might have been quickly fatiguing to you.
Thank you thank you !! Hadn't looked at the Shoer EJ07s before. The reason I didn't pull the plug on the Mangird Tea was because I read (think it was in this forum?) that might be uncomfortable for people with small ears. Think I''m going to revisit them after reading your words. Thanks again