first off, thanks to all for all the replies! regardless of what someone said about "the forum" not liking me, believe me i appreciate it.
second, i have been to the doctor and had a complete physical and total blood run and everything is normal with no signs of malnutrition.
third, i am not asking for medical advice on a headphone forum, i am asking for advice from people who have used weight gainer or from people who have had the same condition and needed to gain weight and suceeded it.
fourth, not to worry, this is not a sudden weight loss ie cancer or any other disease.
fifth, for the people who are telling me to eat more, i appreciate the advice, but that is the problem. i dont eat, period. and forcing myself to eat is not an option, i am not a force yourself to eat kind of person. the very notion of it makes me not want to eat even more. believe me, friends, family, etc. are constantly shoving food in my face and it pisses me off.
sixth, this weight loss is stress related and medication is not the answer. i would like to find a supplement ie weight gainer, to go along with whatever small quantity of food that i eat. in the last few days ben & jerrys has become my new religion, 1 pint a day for the last three days. mmmmm good! phish food and cherry garcia rule! pistachio gets a shot tonight.
and lastly, this is not to gain muscle, i am in good shape, play racquetball twice a week and have zero body fat, i just need to gain pounds period.
again i appreciate all the responses, they have given me several things to think about.
good luck on the alcohol stuff mike, i know its hard but you can do it. just remember, its for your own benefit and your body will thank you in the long run and youll be around longer so we can piss each other off for a long time on this forum!
THANKS TO ALL FOR THE REPLIES!
keep them coming.... paul