I notice the same impact difference even on cheap $20 dynamic driver IEMs. It's not just percussion instruments (that's where you might notice it most easily) but instruments in general. They sound more spacious or effortless in a way despite there being less detail overall. But I can definitely tell the BA driver on the ER3 and ER4 is quicker. It has the sort of smooth texture you'd expect from a higher end headphone.Less bass != more treble. Also you're not even comparing the same form factor here. Might as well talk about loudspeakers vs etys. A big pair of over ears in an ideal listening environment will of course sound more impactful by virtue of it engaging more of your visceral senses. Loudspeakers, more so again.
Even so, Etymotic are right that it's mostly recording dependent. I may demonstrate this by applying said multiband compressor (actually what's needed is an expander in your case) on a recording of your choice.
My next headphone will be an electrostatic open back which is coincidentally another type of headphone that gets criticized for not having great dynamic range or impact. It's not that much of an issue for me because I'm looking for that smooth natural texture and detailed instrument reproduction that is easy on the ears.