Thanks David, for opening the topic which has received a great many insightful posts, great reading.
Yes, I do believe listening attentively and with appreciation for the reproduced performances many subtle beauties is something we both learn and practice driven by some innate motives.
I also do know some others who just don't "get it" as audiophiles and even through our gear. It is a disappointment, I agree. Although they are moved in other ways perhaps emotionally by the primal heartbeat that is the bass beat of what is familiar to all humans when listening to musics.
Some of my friends are much more interested in the personalities and can catalog a musicians history, name albums and their songs yet are seemingly totally content listening by low end speaker systems oblivious to what smacks me as relatively, almost a waste of time
To me, I simply now just consider that type of listening, background sound, yet they do seem to want to play it LOUD for the emotional charge on the cheap. And it does move listeners and that's all good, for what it is.
I think we should like to find groups of like minded people who are similarly motivated for understanding (Head-Fi plug), rather than thinking we can change others motivations, which to many the cost is a HUGE disincentive to admit being impressed as well as their own ability to listen attentively and develope their ear/brain for listening appreciation. Hell, even here we find wide disagreement as to what even we find important and better sounding, perhaps due to taste/preference etc...
If it sounds good, it is good both for myself and for others who disagree with my choices. I've grown in appreciation of that fact and also what sounds good to me along the way in my audio journeys. Apple buds vs K series, I laugh, No Contest here...lol