Let me be strait up with you Roy. I consider myself a confused and rather disillusioned individual. I don't know that I could teach anybody much of anything, I am humbled if I can.
To the best of my ability, I try to remain emotionally neutral and relaxed. I am human and so my resolve still requires a foundational support. If this is not already part of a strong genetic predisposition, my environment nurtures the direction of my growth to a greater extent. How much of what I call me is my own doing? Do I even have a hand on the wheel or am I simply experiencing my actions from the back seat?
"Decisions, intentions, efforts, goals, willpower, ect., are causal states of the brain, leading to specific behaviors, and behaviors lead to outcomes in the world. Human choice, therefore, is as important as fanciers of free will believe. But the next choice you make will come out of the darkness of prior causes that you, the conscious witness of your experience, did not bring into being"
-Sam Harris from his book Free Will
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