I think there is too much missing information here to give you good advice. We don't know what your relationship has been like in the past. How long have you been together? How old are you both? How seriously have you been involved - are you talking marriage - or do you just date exclusively for the fun of it? Has she ever given you reason not to trust her in the past? Was her dinner with this guy before or after she realized she really had a crush on him? I could see having dinner with someone rather innocently & then later deciding I kind of liked him. In what context did she tell you about this crush? If it was one of those "open, honest confession" type times/conversations that could be taken very differently than if she just out of the blue brought up the fact that she kind of likes this guy.

It just seems that in all fairness to both you & your girlfriend that there is a lot of missing info here that only you & she can fill in. Good luck to you both.

Just end it now. Or it will end much worse later on. And, you'll feel like #$%& until it does.

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hit it only once?
at least 2 or 3 times... he is young :r10smile:

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Hey rx_7,

Sorry to hear that man. I assume you are talking about the same GF that we had dinner with last time with Ed. Too bad, she seemed like a nice down to earth person, which my friend thought so as well.
All I have to say don't be disrespected in the realtionship. Only you can tell how serious she meant by telling you this. And sometimes what they tell you or what they want is not the same thing as what they feel.

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if thats the case then her "we went to dinner as friends" means..
"we went to dinner as friends but hours later i left his place XXX star"


changing the passwords and her telling that little out of nowhere means something untold. the passwords tell you something IS happening and probably has been, the telling yo about dinner was her thinking she had a conscience and she thought she would tell you the truth..only it probably stops at the dinner part of it..that's when she realized she is what she is she dont care...about you.
take her money!!!!!!! serious. cause if you dont expose her worst weakness she will come crawling back all sorry and crying one day but its not because she was wrong this time around, its cause she knows it will work on you plus she is bored. hurt her heart and she may not like you but she won't come back. take her money (atleast something) cause you need to feel paid in weird ways regarding emotions..thats why a lot of people say "one more screw before its over" cause they feel they need something to walk..well i say get some money!...

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I agree,

And the avatar shows you just how to do it!

I love that avatar by the way.

edit: Oh, he already did what's right. Sorry to hear that man, but it's good that you're looking after yourself. I'm sure your headphones would seem mighty comforting now. Your audiophile friends are always here for you

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Translation:

She is keeping you as a back up in case it doesn't work out with the new guy. a.k.a. The Bigger Better Deal.


Hate to say it, it's time to move on, Andy. Or at least play the field a little, since she doesn't seem to want to be exclusive with you. But if you don't want to play that type of game, it's best just to end it.

-Ed

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Yeah, you know, funny thing, my wife didn't like her so much. I guess she was right.

-Ed

dude, that's ****ED UP

get the **** out, now

2nd advice: i also don't know who the **** you are so i can't possibly advise you and i don't know why i'm doing so

Though both Micaela's and Uzziah's 2nd posts hold true (we don't know you/situation well enough to advise), there are warning signs and then there are big red flags. These seem like big red flags. I also agree wiith Edwood. She doesn't want to lose you while trying out something new. If you'd agreed to be exclusive, she's now entertaining a new relationship, which means she's already moved on. Depending on how serious your relationship was, either date others yourself or dump her or both.

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Ah well, sucky intuition strikes again.
That does remind me to use girls as friends to screen other girls, they can get a much better emotional vibe.

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fsure :[

Dump her, not worth the headache. Enjoy being single once again. I have endured through the EXACT same situation as you on more than one occasion. In the end, I always ended up getting cheated on.

Dump her, not worth your stress/time.

i'm going to say dump her as well. she's not worth your time.