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you guys are amazing, i wrote things about unreleased earphones/amps and i would probably get 2-3 pages worth of comments in a few days. But I wrote something about my love life and I get 4 pages within 24 hours. I usually don't like to talk about things like this, except I feel like I'm pushed back against the wall.
To update you guys, I confronted her about the situation and she broke down into tears. Like I've never seen someone cry that much ever, I asked her to go into detail about her crush, and she said he was feeling neglected since I wasn't around as much anymore and she had dinner with him one day after work because they were both hungry, they also went to the beach together. She said she never wanted him to be her bf, and she had a 'crush' on him mainly because they both like the same thing, and she thought it was neat. If she's lying about this, it's damn good, because it makes sense. And if she wanted to break up with me, it would be the perfect time, but she said she really want us to be together. Damn guys, this got way more complicated.
P.S.
Thanks so much for all your help, next meet in CA, I'll buy everyone a round. Shot out to Ed and a few of you who met me before, even though we don't talk often; it means a lot to me that you have got back.
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Sorry, if my prior post is a bit harsh and cold. Sometimes I can be very blunt, to the point of being callous. Sorry, thats how I am... so I will pre-warn you that this my be hard to read, but its MY PERSONAL opinion, based on my prior experiences.
In my younger days (1990s) I went through 3 serious relationships, 1-4 years in duration. I'm being TOTALLY honest with you, ALL 3 followed a similar path as you are describing. GF finds some other guy who is "just a friend", they go out for lunch, dinner, and spend an afternoon together...etc... No biggie right?
I question them on it... "Oh he's just a friend". I let them know my discomfort with this new found friendship and they cry, the BAWL like theres no tomorrow. So, I feel really bad at this point. I apologize for making them cry and just go along as if nothing happened. A month or 2 go by and well... I get blown off on our big anniversary date or something else thats supposed to be special for us.
Being as polite as I can, I question them on that, they cry and sob again. I let them know my discomfort with their friendship and being stood up. Only, this time... I pretty much have had it. Of course they cry some more, but at this point, I've got to get out of this thing... for my own sanity. I can't take this emotional roller-coaster. Life is too short for me to be loosing sleep and stressing out.
Next stop dumps-ville, end of line.
Don't let the tears fool you, it may be genuine at that moment, but young women cry like men fart, sweat and belch... its practically an instinctive reaction. Its a spur of the moment reaction to something. Even my wife, Love hear dearly... will just start bawling from things she sees in movies. My daughter, just look at her the wrong way and she's in tears.
In my past relationships, they were ALL "just fiends" in the beginning, and none of them were anything I had to worry about.
I guess I dated pretty conservative women, none of them actually slept with these guys... So in that regard I never was actually cheated on. But still, I almost felt like I had been cheated on.
So anyways, you can see, why I have such opinions. I was down for the count on 3 out of 4 long-term relationships. I married the 4th one
, fortunately our views on dedication and marriage commitment are identical so we see eye to eye on that.