bootdsc
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Going back a few years for that one, aren't you?
We ain't all spring chickens here ya know...
Winter killed persimmon is about how I feel right now. I know you folks got a pasting, but geez we had snow flurries last weekend down here. Time to find a "curvy" girl if this is the new trend
Canada is cold, girls are already running around in shorts down here, all ya have to do is move South.
Ugh, so my nightmare with my ex just doesn't end.
So as some of you may (or probably don't) know, I run a weekly dance event. Unfortunately, our venue is closing down and yesterday was our final dance at the place we've been dancing at for almost 10 years, with me at the helm for most of that. If any day could be considered "my" day, that was it. Someone noticed on facebook that my ex was planning on making an appearance. Knowing that this would ruin the night for me, my friend sent her a private message asking her not to go.
Apparently, this has made her furious because no one has the right to tell her what to do, and that I don't even appreciate that she has barely come out dancing in the past 2 years (the amount of conceit here is staggering to me). But the part that worries me is that she says she is now going to come out to whatever events she wants to.
And if she does, I might just up and quit. Which will be bad for everyone else because I'm the one who runs the weekly events. I'll shut it down and walk away. Without me, I don't know if anyone else would run things. I know it's running away, but I just can't deal with her.
I think the most chilling thing is that from her point of view I don't think she even realizes what she did was wrong.
I have too much hate built up. Anger is healthy, it protects you from future harm and pushes you forward, but this hate is seething and rots me from the inside. I know I need to let go of the hate and move on, and most of the time I'm ok, but then seeing her just triggers the rage and my brain starts to shut down under that cry for vengeance. It's not healthy, but I'm stuck. There was so much psychological damage done before and during the breakup/cheating that I haven't fully pulled myself together from that yet even after these past couple years, and seeing her triggers regression. It's like trying to heal a scab that gets ripped open every time I see her. Maybe it's all just scar tissue now.
I actually am considering freezing the event if she starts appearing regularly. "My apologies, the weekly dance is now cancelled. Certain personas have made the environment poisonous for me and I can no longer operate under those conditions."