Women become attracted to nerdy guys as they get older

[ls20]

i present exhibit a:
http://www6.head-fi.org/forums/showthread.php?t=197189

 

[braillediver]

"As they get older" - "especially after college"

That's like 23 or something? That ain't old.


"I'm 52. When does this kick in?"

Exactly- as it's going I'm not going to live long enough to experience this.


Mitch

 

[jpr703]

Older women still sleep with the good-looking guys. They may give it up to wealthy nerds (or anyone wealthy for that matter) if they're looking to settle down, but they'll always be more attracted to the same type of men they liked in high school.

 

[JahJahBinks]

Quote:

Originally Posted by mbriant I'm 52. When does this kick in?

D'oh, where have you been in the last 29 years?

 

[lmilhan]

The Geeks shall inheret the earth.

 

[Tuberoller]

You guys are funny

I see you guys are busy having a nerd fantasy thread here. I'll wait a minute...........

The truth. Women never really change the type of men they want. This all comes down the question and answer of availability. Most of the guys they want are either married or used up by the time they're older (over 35) and by then the so-called nerds are what's left.

I don't buy the whole nerd persona anyway. I know guys who play the nerd role right up to the bedpost. Most women will roll over for the nerd types and I know this. The very worst thing that any women can tell you is "no" and in my opinion, that ain't so bad. It seems like the less confident guys are more hurt by the rejection and the guys who aren't, move on....to the next woman.

Let's not mistake being a "nerd" for being a slob, jerk or just plain old sheepish. If you look or act like you don't care, nobody else will. I promise, if you tell every (available) woman that you're attracted to how you feel about them, some of them will respond. Some will either reject you outright or just kinda drift away and some will show interest. If you're the kinda guy who only likes really,really hot women then you have other problems. Women like that crave attention and even after you get them (I was married to one and have dated others) you'll have to lavish attention.

If you look and act like you're a decent guy who might be available, women who are interested will see this and take notice. When I was married I was overweight and dressed like I didn't have to impress anyone. After I was divorced I lost weight, dressed better and took some cooking classes. I was rejected a lot but I also met dozens of very nice,very attractive women. If you call yourself a nerd, you project that and people will think of you as a nerd.

 

[Febs]

Quote:

Originally Posted by lmilhan The Geeks shall inheret the earth.

"Did he say, 'blessed are the cheesemakers'?!"

 

[Spareribs]

I know there are some young head fiers here who may not be getting any girls. I feel your pain people. Been there, done that. Even if you lose your virginity at a pretty late age, it's ok. But I will say that I have seen older women eager to sleep with nerdy guys. Let this thread be a ray of light for you.

 

[FalconP]

Women are evolutionarily tuned to men's economic prospects, especially when they look for long-term partners (before someone accuse me of being sexist, please read the book The Evolution of Desire -- the He-man/Ken analogy is close to what is actually found in sociological research). Nerds may not necessarily make more money than Jocks, but sure they spend less and leave more for their significant others.

 

[roastpuff]

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Originally Posted by FalconP Nerds may not necessarily make more money than Jocks, but sure they spend less and leave more for their significant others.

Uh, not on Head-Fi they don't!

 

[boomana]

As a woman, I find this thread rather amusing. Bio-psycho-social studies aside, boys, women who mature emotionally and intellectually DO change their taste in men, and those who don't...well, don't. If you guys are still not making connections, maybe check your own values....hmmm.

Oh, and for most of us who long ago abandoned Cinderella fantasies in favor of real men...it ain't all about the wallet.

 

[Tuberoller]

Sorry that my last post required an edit. Didn't mean to drop by and crap on the place.

 

[plainsong]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Spareribs In high school, the hot girls normally don't go for the nerdy freshman kid. I remember when I was in 8th grade and being at the mall and playing some video games, these fine looking girls in tight blue jeans would snicker at me as I was a little younger than them and they would never be caught dead with me. They wouldn't even slow dance with me at the school dance. No way. It would be an insult to their pride being with a nerdy younger kid. However, I do notice that things change. My observation is that when women get older, especially after college, the same girls will find that nerdy guy to be attractive and will even sleep with him! Unbelievable!

LOL - I always prefered the "interesting" looking guys, not the stereotypically chiseled face and ripped muscles. Not that muscles were a bad thing, it's just that I liked guys who were different. Had what the French call a certain I don't know what.

I don't know if that means nerdy. I'd say mostly no. I wasn't in touch with my geek self back then. However, there were two guys, who though they were nerdy, they were still considered cool, and I woulda gone out with them in a heartbeat. One was a friend, and the other, people assumed we were going out since we hung off of each other all the time. Both really nerdy, but really cool too.

I think that means that I had/have my preferences, but wouldn't overlook if I'm attracted to someone.

 

[plainsong]

Quote:

Originally Posted by boomana As a woman, I find this thread rather amusing. Bio-psycho-social studies aside, boys, women who mature emotionally and intellectually DO change their taste in men, and those who don't...well, don't. If you guys are still not making connections, maybe check your own values....hmmm. Oh, and for most of us who long ago abandoned Cinderella fantasies in favor of real men...it ain't all about the wallet.

*hears the amen cadence play in the backround*

I've been really lucky with the men I've met in my life. Sometimes it's easy to take for granted how lucky.

 

[boomana]

Curious.......noticed that this thread had been moving along at a mighty clip, then two actual women join in...mind you, two women who like men...and it stops cold. I do think the topic had run its course, but still........very curious.