LunarLight
Head-Fier
I just need foam that 0.5mm bigger than Dekoni mercury S, the EP normally fit good and it seal but gets hot or irritated over time.Well if no foam fits you (not even normal foam), the only thing you can do is getting an Otoplastic or sell them :/
Foam is the only solution to Air Pressure issues and in addition to that, the IER-M9 are very special in terms of fitting.
The FA9 are unvented too and most people don't have issues with them. I can also fit them with silicone just fine and Foam is just perfect fit.
But the FA9 go much deeper into the ear thanks to their semi custom design.
So your issue is not mainly to the unvented design. The EP-NI1000 don't fit and there is no relation to the venting.
The IER-M9 are just hard to fit overall.
But if L feels to stuffy, the MS/M/ML sounds right.
But your ears should not stretch at all, that sounds like you're pushing them to hard.
Can you show an video how you're fitting them? Maybe that can help us identify any issues
For others iem i simply put them in my ears and push them in until i got snug fit, and done, the only eartips i can do the same with M9 is the foam.
For the test i slightly tilt my head to opposite direction, pull my ear upward, open my mouth, put the M9 in, hold it and release everything. For all silicone including hybrid with the size i comfortable with, the sound skew to the left if it fit properly, while triple comfort slipping until the very edge before the seal broke.