Elec
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The idea is not to be a jerk to get girls, but to see what it is that girls like about jerks and then do that. Girls don't like jerks because they treat them badly. They like jerks because those guys are strong and confident, they have their own lives, they don't put up with BS, and they present a challenge because they don't make it obvious that the girl has them wrapped around her little finger. "Nice guys" don't do these things naturally. They bend over backwards to do favors for the girl and let themselves be walked all over. They always say "What do you think we should do?" instead of "Meet me for coffee Friday at 8". They put off a vibe of being lucky to be near the girl, rather than the other way around or at least that she's not the only thing on your plate. If you can be strong and confident, have your own life, don't let her take advantage of you or pull BS, and be a little hard to get while still being nice and treating the girl well, you'll have much better luck. A girl would rather have a nice guy than a jerk. But she'd rather have a confident man (even if he is a dick to her) than a wimpy pushover boy (who is kind and generous to no end). Get it?
Also about the height thing (this applies to other traits as well). When a girl says she likes tall guys, it isn't specifically the tallness she likes, it's how a tall guy makes her feel. This is good news, since you can't do anything to make yourself taller. What you can do, is ask the girl what it is she likes about tall guys. Don't settle for a crap answer like "Cause he should be taller than me!", make sure you get feelings (like "Tall guys make me feel safe"). Then what you can do is subtly demonstrate with your actions and words that you can make her feel safe. If you do this properly, it won't matter that you're not tall because you've given her what she really wanted (the feeling of safety) rather than what she said she wanted (height). You can apply this to any other trait you want. Step 1 is find out what she wants/likes in terms of how things make her feel. Step 2 is find a way to give her those feelings and associate them with you.
Also about the height thing (this applies to other traits as well). When a girl says she likes tall guys, it isn't specifically the tallness she likes, it's how a tall guy makes her feel. This is good news, since you can't do anything to make yourself taller. What you can do, is ask the girl what it is she likes about tall guys. Don't settle for a crap answer like "Cause he should be taller than me!", make sure you get feelings (like "Tall guys make me feel safe"). Then what you can do is subtly demonstrate with your actions and words that you can make her feel safe. If you do this properly, it won't matter that you're not tall because you've given her what she really wanted (the feeling of safety) rather than what she said she wanted (height). You can apply this to any other trait you want. Step 1 is find out what she wants/likes in terms of how things make her feel. Step 2 is find a way to give her those feelings and associate them with you.