Kirosia
Headphoneus Supremus
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For all the guys out there, have you ever gotten that "you're a nice guy and all" speech? You know, when girls say "you're really sweet and caring at all, blah blah blah, I don't want to ruin our friendship, blah blah blah, I'm not ready to be with someone right now, blah blah blah". Or my favorites, "You'd make some girl really happy someday" and the straight out "I don't think so".
Or the worst, which is when you both know you feel for each other, but can never say it.
These have only been said to me a few times, but nonetheless it gets on my nerves. Why? Because usually the person saying it to me is someone who knows that we'd be good together.
I had asked out a girl a while back, who turned me down with ease. I was a little jaded. Blew away any confidence I had. She gave me the "you're a nice guy and all" speech. But I could tell in her head she really meant "Like I'd ever go out with an ugly nobody like you". Asked out another girl, said the same thing. What hurts is that I really was sweet to them, something I can't help. I'm nice. My male and female friends say that they it was their loss, I still wonder if this was true. Being nice just doesn't cut it, at least around here.
On a non-related note, there was this girl I knew in high school, she was a cheerleader, popular, with guys waiting for a chance to date her. She dated the popular, rich, bad boy-type guys. I knew her for 3 years, we were friends, sort of. We ran in different crowds, but that wasn't a big deal, I thought. Whenever I talked her, I could make her smile, laugh, and blush, like no other guy could. I could tell that there was a spark.
I was never going to ask her out though, because I was a low-class chump, with little money and no car. I wasn't popular whatsoever, I hung out with the outcasts. And to top it off, I was a nice guy. I knew I had no chance. So my feelings just started to fade.
So, one day, she tells me she's always liked this guy she knows. I knew only a little about who she was talking about, other than that he was somewhat of a dick. But, he was in the same league. I told her to go for it. Her face just froze for a second. At the time I didn't realize it though. I guess she thought it was odd, considering our possible feelings for one another. Fast forward a few months later, and there she was with him. I honestly didn't care. As long as she was happy, that's all that mattered to me.
What's funny though, is that his locker was right next to mine, and whenever she would kiss him and stuff, she would hesitate in front of me. She didn't look to happy either. (The guy reminded of a emotionless zombie for some reason) Also, which just may be coincidence, her boyfriend and I were in the same homeroom at the time, and we had the same birthday. Weird. May be she would've been happier with me. I'll never know. Heh, whatever.
Or the worst, which is when you both know you feel for each other, but can never say it.
These have only been said to me a few times, but nonetheless it gets on my nerves. Why? Because usually the person saying it to me is someone who knows that we'd be good together.
I had asked out a girl a while back, who turned me down with ease. I was a little jaded. Blew away any confidence I had. She gave me the "you're a nice guy and all" speech. But I could tell in her head she really meant "Like I'd ever go out with an ugly nobody like you". Asked out another girl, said the same thing. What hurts is that I really was sweet to them, something I can't help. I'm nice. My male and female friends say that they it was their loss, I still wonder if this was true. Being nice just doesn't cut it, at least around here.
On a non-related note, there was this girl I knew in high school, she was a cheerleader, popular, with guys waiting for a chance to date her. She dated the popular, rich, bad boy-type guys. I knew her for 3 years, we were friends, sort of. We ran in different crowds, but that wasn't a big deal, I thought. Whenever I talked her, I could make her smile, laugh, and blush, like no other guy could. I could tell that there was a spark.
I was never going to ask her out though, because I was a low-class chump, with little money and no car. I wasn't popular whatsoever, I hung out with the outcasts. And to top it off, I was a nice guy. I knew I had no chance. So my feelings just started to fade.
So, one day, she tells me she's always liked this guy she knows. I knew only a little about who she was talking about, other than that he was somewhat of a dick. But, he was in the same league. I told her to go for it. Her face just froze for a second. At the time I didn't realize it though. I guess she thought it was odd, considering our possible feelings for one another. Fast forward a few months later, and there she was with him. I honestly didn't care. As long as she was happy, that's all that mattered to me.
What's funny though, is that his locker was right next to mine, and whenever she would kiss him and stuff, she would hesitate in front of me. She didn't look to happy either. (The guy reminded of a emotionless zombie for some reason) Also, which just may be coincidence, her boyfriend and I were in the same homeroom at the time, and we had the same birthday. Weird. May be she would've been happier with me. I'll never know. Heh, whatever.