Is it possible to be in love with someone you barely know?

[Happy Camper]

Women don't like softies unless they've been through the ringer with a looser. Casual interest will give them the thrill of the chase. Unearned affection is least appreciated.

 

[himynameis]

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Originally Posted by Happy Camper /img/forum/go_quote.gif Women don't like softies unless they've been through the ringer with a looser. Casual interest will give them the thrill of the chase. Unearned affection is least appreciated.

When I was about to give a serious piece of advice you posted my exact thoughts.

Still, this doesn't mean that one should give up their soft, very-emotional side... Just find a way not to expose it as your most-defining characteristic when pursuing love and acceptance from a relative stranger.
Or be prepared for a most-likely nasty reaction.

 

[Kirosia]

I have been in a lot of pain for the past few weeks. Like, I've got butterflies in my stomach and they're close to eating their way through to my liver. I haven't felt this way in oh... 5+ years. And never to this extent. Even though I won't say it, I think a part of me needs her.

 

[choka]

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Originally Posted by Kirosia /img/forum/go_quote.gif I am a teddie bear.

This teddy bear???
: Photo by Photographer Matusciac Alex - photo.net


On a serious note, I think it is best to find the truth instead of torturing yourself with uncertainty.

 

[Kirosia]

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Originally Posted by choka /img/forum/go_quote.gif This teddy bear??? : Photo by Photographer Matusciac Alex - photo.net

I was thinking of saying something elaborate, but I realized it would just be lame and over dramatic. I'm just gonna turn to her and say "I think I have a crush on you" then make a run for it.

 

[choka]

Oh boy, this just crossed my mind. You should have done it 7 days ago. If she vomits then you could have told her it's Aprils Fool...

but since your yearly opportunity has passed, just tell her and wait for her reaction. Don't run... what's the point if you don't hear a reply?

 

[Kirosia]

I already know what her reply will be, so it's moot. I won't run and I've got a bottle of nice rum ready to take me home.

 

[choka]

You will lose if you think you will lose before the fight. Keep the hope up.

 

[Kirosia]

No, I'd love to say that I had a chance, but the best possible outcome is her shrugging off my crush but still choosing to be friends. I can live with that.

 

[kool bubba ice]

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Originally Posted by Kirosia /img/forum/go_quote.gif I wouldn't, I'd just wait it out and hope they don't last. (I know it sounds wrong)

Chances are, you would be better for her, but many don't want to 'start over.' I been in that situation twice.. They liked me, were in bad relations, but didn't want to risk starting over again with someone new.. I guess they see it as emotional milage, & would rather stay in a place they are comfortable in, even though it's not the best for them, instead of starting off fresh..

 

[kool bubba ice]

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Originally Posted by Kirosia /img/forum/go_quote.gif I have been in a lot of pain for the past few weeks. Like, I've got butterflies in my stomach and they're close to eating their way through to my liver. I haven't felt this way in oh... 5+ years. And never to this extent. Even though I won't say it, I think a part of me needs her.

Emotional pain is so much more painful then physical pain.. Can take yrs to heal.. Then you can hold grudges & let it eat away at you.. Seriously, I was so emotional distraught over a girl.. Getting my finger chopped off would have been less painful. I knew a women who slit her wrist because her BF left her.. She was black, he was a white, Russian, orthodox Jew.. His parents wanted him to marry a Jewish girl, so he dumped her.. She was even fluent in Russian, & met his parents.. She had a long one inch scar on her wrist.. Crazy stuff.. Why do you think many people don't get involved. Can you really trust someone with your heart?

 

[Superpredator]

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Originally Posted by Kirosia /img/forum/go_quote.gif I already know what her reply will be, so it's moot. I won't run and I've got a bottle of nice rum ready to take me home.

Can it really be that hopeless? How is it that you know this girl, how long have you known her, and what is the current dynamic of your friendship? I understand the need to tell her how you feel and find closure, but if you have even a shred of hope for something more with her, do not spill your guts prematurely. If you really do need her, as you say, you should respect your genes and work with them to acquire that which they seek. Even in hopeless situations it's a good idea to improve your odds where you can, and making yourself less interesting to her with a 4th grade confession seems kind of pointless. Don't shoot for her barf.

 

[Kirosia]

I've been in the same french classes with her for a year, but have only talked to her this semester. I graduate in a month and may never see her again, so I really have no choice. Plus the emotions are distracting me from my schoolwork and well, causing me massive amounts of pain.

 

[nhancakes]

You're infatuated, but you don't know what love is. And if you really "loved" her then you wouldn't have trouble just telling her you like her. You're hiding your feelings from her, and you think you can love someone by hiding from her?

or hell you might be starcrossed lovers who knows? but I'm not a believer in that.

 

[leeperry]

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Originally Posted by Kirosia /img/forum/go_quote.gif I've been in the same french classes with her for a year

french is the language of love, so make up some bs in french....it worked like a treat on german chicks ^^