Is it possible to be in love with someone you barely know?

[Graphicism]

This is very very easy to solve... simply walk up to her (if she's a real person and not some cartoon, I didn't read the whole thread), spark up a conversation and ask her out. If she says yes you can take it too the next level, if she turns you down your love will turn to spite in about a week and you'll be over her and onto the next. If I've learned anything in 29 years it's to follow your heart and not to think about it too much, before I knew it I was on a plane, engaged and married. Good luck!

 

[Deep Funk]

I should do that more often...

 

[tru blu]

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Originally Posted by Uncle Erik /img/forum/go_quote.gif First, she already knows you like her. Women just know these things. Second, declarations of love/crush/etc. are the surest road to rejection. It never works for anyone outside of TV and movies. Just ask her out. Invite her over to study, work that into going out to eat, a few drinks, whatever. Pay attention to her body language. If she's interested, make a move. But don't open up and spill everything. You'll come across as creepy and that will be the end. Just see if she'll swap notes, want to eat, that sort of thing. She'll know that you're asking her out and you can avoid the humiliating confession part.

This makes the most sense to me. All that I'm-crazy-for-you stuff is crash-and-burn, and it almost seems like you wanna take that route because you think you have no chance. Don't sell yourself short. If she's gonna reject you, better in a friendly casual way that leaves open future possibilities than in a way that will make you both uncomfortable. If this is something you want, approach it like that. She may surprise you. We humans are funny that way.

 

[spookygonk]

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Originally Posted by Deep Funk /img/forum/go_quote.gif I should do that more often...

Just make sure the pre-nup says you keep all your headphone gear.

Ask her out. If you bail and just be "that boy" that just smiles from a distance and says nothing, you'll regret it. Happened with me years ago.

 

[Kirosia]

I couldn't sleep much cause of the adrenaline. Good advice guys, but now that I have a slightly clearer mind, I'm positive she's not interested in me. I'm just gonna do the casual "I seem to have a crush/feelings for you" line then endure the awkwardness for the next two hours. I can't stand this feeling anymore.

 

[Superpredator]

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Originally Posted by Kirosia /img/forum/go_quote.gif But I don't think she dislikes me. The big question is does she see me as a potential friend, or possibly something more?

These things don't actually matter as much as you'd think. Sometimes a girl will become irresistible if you disliked her at first, and this seems to be true for women more than men.

The difference between potential friendship and something more is only a slight change in perspective for her, and it doesn't necessarily take much, just the right read and the right action.

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Originally Posted by Kirosia /img/forum/go_quote.gif I'm just gonna do the casual "I seem to have a crush/feelings for you" line then endure the awkwardness for the next two hours. I can't stand this feeling anymore.

 

[leeperry]

don't put yourself as a victim of your own feelings, put yourself as a man who craves her and wants to see her all the time...start is as a winner, not as a loser...pitiness and love don't mix at all.

don't be a beggar for her forgiveness, give her an opportunity to spend some great time w/ you...because you're a guy who knows how to rock a chick in the first place...they keep calling you on your cellphone, but you don't have enough love for all of them...that's the right attitude to have IMHO.

seriously, read as much as you can on fastseduction.com, being an AFC is just gonna blow things up.

you want to offer her an opportunity to have some great time, not a shoulder for you to cry.

Common acronyms / slang used on alt.seduction.fast
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Average Frustrated Chump. A "nice guy". A guy who has no pick up skills and rarely manages to close a target pick up. Also a guy who tends to supplicate in his behavior to HBs. Meaning, buying flowers for a chick when going out for coffee, putting her on a pedestal, and generally letting women walk all over him in the vein hope of somehow being seen as attractive in their eyes. A common term used for AFCs that have seen the error of their ways but not yet gained PUA skills is RACF (Recovering AFC).

 

[Lazarus Short]

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Originally Posted by Superpredator /img/forum/go_quote.gif These things don't actually matter as much as you'd think. Sometimes a girl will become irresistible if you disliked her at first, and this seems to be true for women more than men.

I can't help but think how well initial dislike worked in the movie Twilight. Now I see that fellow's face everywhere, and teen girls seem to swoon over him. Nevertheless, I see crash-and-burn in Kirosia's future.

 

[elbuzzard]

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Originally Posted by Graphicism /img/forum/go_quote.gif This is very very easy to solve... simply walk up to her (if she's a real person and not some cartoon

If she is a cartoon, drop an anvil on her feet and smack her on the head with a frying pan so you can see little tweetie birds hovering around her head.

 

[Superpredator]

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Originally Posted by Lazarus Short /img/forum/go_quote.gif I can't help but think how well initial dislike worked in the movie Twilight. Now I see that fellow's face everywhere, and teen girls seem to swoon over him.

Haven't seen it, but my girlfriend tells me it's very funny.

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Originally Posted by Lazarus Short /img/forum/go_quote.gif Nevertheless, I see crash-and-burn in Kirosia's future.

 

[choka]

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Originally Posted by Superpredator /img/forum/go_quote.gif

Is this the only down side of using a cartoon character as an avatar?

 

[Superpredator]

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Originally Posted by choka /img/forum/go_quote.gif Is this the only down side of using a cartoon character as an avatar?

Not necessarily. Because his avatar is so adorable, a lot of people mistake Kirosia for a girl. I think you're safe though.

 

[semisight]

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Originally Posted by demoNMaCHiN3 /img/forum/go_quote.gif If you can't wait then just whip it out and stick it in her butt. This will tell you definitively if she's into you or not based on her response. This works for me.....sometimes

When... when has that ever worked for you? I want stories

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@Kirosia: When in doubt, don't be afraid to make a fool of yourself. Occasionally things work out for the better. I felt the same way about a girl, we went to prom as "friends," and she pretty clearly conveyed (body language and such) she wasn't into me, so I left it alone. Even though I would have crashed and burned there, I still should have gone for it.

In my experience people seem to respond better when you make your feelings plain; they know you're not hiding anything so they can respond how they feel is right with some confidence instead of running.

 

[John2e]

Dude,

You are suffering from an obsessive compulsive disorder. This leads to depression, obsession, inability to concentrate and lack of sleep . Their are medications available that will help you. Setting yourself up for faluire will only lead to more depression. I have read some of your blogs and you seem very depressed. This is not love. Look at the guy who feel in love with Ivanka Trump or Jodie Foster. I am sure they had the same strong feeling of destiny. Please get help. I implore you. You deserve to be happy these feelings are unhealthy

 

[Kirosia]

She didn't show. In fact, I'm almost positive she was with this other guy from the class. Screw it, I almost vomited from the adrenaline while hoping she'd appear, I ain't doing this anymore. The only thing that settled me down was telling one my classmates about the ordeal and being comforted.

And to clarify, I'm not "the nice guy", at least not fully. I used to get numbers from strangers who'd pour their hearts out to me in one conversation. Even guys like my company, the fella I mentioned above seems to have a "bro crush" on me. (Yeah I'm jealous of a guy who adores me, it's messed up) My big problem is that I am insanely insecure. It's hard for me to fathom that people would actively want to spend time with me... due to a history of people not wanting to spend time with me.

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Look at the guy who feel in love with Ivanka Trump or Jodie Foster. I am sure they had the same strong feeling of destiny.

I'm a bit off the rocker but nowhere near that far off.