WOW! Is this thread ever gettin' hot! I've got no beefs with internet dating, other than the fact that it didn't work for me. Four years ago, I bought a computer for 2-reasons:
1) To get a storage medium for music downloads, in hopes of replenishing a flood-damaged music library.
2) To find someone to share my life with.
After 3-years of separation from my ex-wife, and awaiting the finalization of my divorce (not to mention the fact that the so-called "angel" who I worked with, and who played me... decided to abandon me in favour of someone 13-years her senior); resulted in my decision to explore other dating avenues. So, I turned to the internet.
After 6-months (and $150 in membership fees later) on Lavalife, I thought I had finally found the one. She was hot, seemed classy, separated for almost a year, and had 3-kids. We chatted online for 3-months, and seemed to establish alot in common, before we eventually met. The first night we met, it was on a Saturday-night, and I was working at my part-time job. Due to our opposing work-schedules; I had invited her to come in, to meet in a public place, with no pressure; and a chance to get to know each other for a bit, on a face-to-face basis. After my shift ended (and we had spent about 3-hours in each-others' company), I asked her if she wanted to come back to my apartment for a drink, and a bite to eat. She said yes...and that's the night when things went a bit farther than they should have
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Next thing you know, I was meeting her teenaged kids, brother, her mom...and entertaining the idea of sharing living-accomodations with her, and her kids. I really thought she was cool...not to mention, the sex was totally amazing (best I'd ever had, in what was at that time, 37 years on this planet!). I spent alot of $$ and time, treating her like a queen in the 3-months that followed.
After we had been dating for a couple of weeks, we discussed it; and we both agreed to remove our profiles from Lava and other dating sites. Well...I removed mine, anyhow.
Next thing you know, she's telling me how she was chatting with one of her male buddies on Lava; then she started cancelling our previously arranged plans...and she's spending alot of "alone-time" with her ex. I went back to Lava, only to find she never did take herself off the market...only I did. Guess she was keeping her options open
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It took a few close, platonic, female friends to clue me into what was going on. I was bein' played, and I never realized it
That was 3-years ago. I got a cat out of it all (her cat had kittens, so I took one, a month before I split with her). I also got alot more than that. The experience made me become more aware of what I wanted in life... and what I didn't want. I became more aware of myself, and what I really wanted was to keep my independence. I spent almost 10 years, in what my ex used to call "a marriage of convenience".
Truth is, the whole experience taught me somethin' about myself: I enjoy my freedom. I work 6-days/week; and as such, feel I'm entitled to some enjoyment after my bills (and my kid-responsibilities are met) to come home to my modest 1-bedroom apartment. I work, so I can provide for my kids and myself. I'm not a people-person; even though, for some reason, I keep getting employed in such fields. I (like I'm sure many others do), do what it takes, without complaint, to keep my head above water.
After WAY too-many years of looking after others, I feel it's finally time for some ME-time. I'm still registered on a few dating websites, but to be truthful, I'd like to post an ad that reads like this:
"Non-violent,muscular, well-groomed (and yummy-smelling), good-looking, 30-ish looking, 40-yr-old- male (desease-free) pot and cigarette-smoking, alcoholic; seeking a single, 25-37-yr-old female, fixed and desease free screw-buddy; with a slim to average build...with a height of 5'0-5'7, 100-150-lbs. Must live within 60-miles of my postal-code, in my own country".
MUST adhere to the above requirements (no-exceptions), and expect no-commitments". Credit-cards
NOT accepted...only Paypal, with balance/bank-account transfer...(not that I expect you or I to pay for mutual enjoyment)
If there are no ladies who meet the above criteria, that are interested...well, I guess I'd just rather stay single...and I salute you, "Stone Cold Steve Austin", style! I really am happy with my life, but like anyone who is a member(or lurker) here...upgraditis DOES hit us all. LOL!