ProtegeManiac
Headphoneus Supremus
Yet everyone else I've talked to here and other places say that both of these headphones are very durable and that I am just too hard on my headphones.
So which is it?
Some of them might have been clumsy with their headphones or don't trust you saying you won't be hard on them. That explains what they're saying, not ultimately the headphones themselves.
Spend a bit more and try the Superlux HD330. Thick metal headband frame and gimbals that you can bend to adjust the clamp. It still has possible points of failure where the gimbals attach to the earcups so don't sleep with them on.
If you really need to wear the headphones to bed you really should save up for those totally wireless earbuds.