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Thanks, that is all great info! Yeah I have actually been in the situation you speak of with trying to get a girl in your friend zone. This one I haven't known very long (3 weeks?) I was on vacation with her in NH last week with 3 of my best friends, her and her boyfriend. She was having a rough time with him while we were there and one morning her and I went out for a hike and both brought our SLR cameras on for some photography fun and had a blast! My friends are also helping with getting us in a couples type environment without throwing myself at her if that makes sense. For example we are going to the NY Auto Show (she loves cars it was her idea we aren't dragging her there) and we are making it sort of a couples thing, my best friend, his g/f, the girl I'm interested in and myself... no third wheels. She also loves horses (equestrian major with 3 horses) and I've always wanted to legitimately ride a horse(how convenient). So we should be doing that sometime soon. Either way I'm sure I'm not in the friend zone YET. It's a tough situation because I have no plan on rushing her into anything but at the same time don't want to wait too long and end up in the friend zone.
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You're welcome. NH definitely is a lot of fun for the outdoors stuff, isn't it? And "Live Free or Die" is still the best state motto ever made.
If you know that you are interested in her as more than just a friend, you have to lead her to the next step. I think what the 2 others were saying earlier, about getting into relationships with former good friends, were more of instances where things "just happened". In other words, the intention of friendship was MUTUAL at the beginning. Both parties had no idea of what was going to happen right about until it happened.
It's obvious that this isn't the case here, as you clearly have a desire to pursue things on more than just a friends level when you first met this girl. The longer you wait, the more you'll be pushed into the friend zone.
More importantly, it's how you act rather than length of time that determines which category you fall into. Be fun, challenging, don't do things looking for/expecting certain reactions, non-needy, and have a good time. For example, here's a great modified nugget of gold you might be able to use.
When you're at the car show, hop into the backseat of a convertible, stretch back, and with an mischievous glint in your eye say "Hey... wanna do it?" As long as she's laughing and having a good time and flirting back, it's all good.
And of course, when it comes down to it, you're going to have to escalate things to some kind of physical level. Just remember, don't hesitate, and the 4 base model most guys tend to use is complete bs. You know, 1st = kissing, 2nd = breastisis, 3rd = everything but, 4th = sex.
Trust me if you don't already know this (and confirm this with your female friends), it's much easier and comfortable for her to go from talking => handholding => hair smelling/nuzzling => playful neck biting/hair pulling => kissing than trying to go from talking => kissing as most guys tend to do. Remember, guys = light switches, girls = volume knobs.
One good, old way to tell if she's giving off signs of interest is to take her by the hand and lead her to another part of the club/convention/restaurant/whatever. As you're leading her give her hand a gentle squeeze. If she squeezes back, then things are probably going well.
Anyway, I feel like I'm turning this into a Dr. ****ing Phil column (except with advice that can actually work
) , so I promise this is my last post on this thread. Good luck-- the rest is up to you.
