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Mar 23, 2007 at 8:52 PM Post #31 of 111
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Originally Posted by Vicomte /img/forum/go_quote.gif
Take her to the local graveyard, and point out all the dead people you know.

You can make some up, if you like.


HAHA!

Seriously, these are some good ideas...always glad to hear from the more experienced
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Mar 23, 2007 at 10:24 PM Post #32 of 111
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Originally Posted by Vicomte /img/forum/go_quote.gif
Take her to the local graveyard, and point out all the dead people you know.

You can make some up, if you like.


I tried that, but then I saw green smoke coming out of the graves and panicked and ran out as fast as I could. It turned out that rotting bones produce the green smoke.
 
Mar 24, 2007 at 3:52 AM Post #33 of 111
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Originally Posted by mrplow /img/forum/go_quote.gif

If she expresses dislike about, for example, your taste in music, your favorite food, your hobbies, etc. don't start apologizing or changing your opinions to try and win points (you're actually losing points if you do). Instead react the same way you'd treat a best friend- tease her about it, and say something like "Oh yeah? That's too bad because now you and I will never work out" with a sly grin on your face. Again, seems counterintuitive, but trust me- it works.




I think a lot of guys make this mistake, its one thing to have common interests but another to agree with every single thing she says. I think people feel pressured to be extra friendly and agreeable on a date? Personally, I think being rude and sarcastic can be just as fun, but tact is the key.
 
Mar 24, 2007 at 4:17 AM Post #34 of 111
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Originally Posted by vcoheda /img/forum/go_quote.gif
Have you seen the movie Taxi Driver. If you have, that's an idea.


she'll be thinking "does he hate me?!"

honestly, i don't think where you are really matters. most of my dates were at the library...i'm not quite sure they were dates...because we did homework...and flirted at the same time

but seriously, have fun and make sure you're acting like yourself

trust me on those two or three things

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dancing is a good idea. i went with a girl not so long ago. it was real fun because the place was full of old people...and neither of us felt like switching partners like the instructor told us to do. we still bring it up every now and then and she keeps telling me she wants to go back with me. its the small, memorable things that really matter
 
Mar 24, 2007 at 4:26 AM Post #35 of 111
Freakishly I read this thread while Final Fantasy plays on the CD changer....

Possible possible ideas for a date include..... a shooting range?
 
Mar 24, 2007 at 4:30 AM Post #36 of 111
My girlfriend and I consider our first date to be a trip to the ice skating rink and a bookstore afterwards, one sunny July day.

And here we are, nearly eight months later, and everything's still not ruined! So that's always worth a shot. (Before that we went to LaserQuest and the Quarry [a shopping center thing here in San Antonio], neither of which I'd really consider a date. Though the Quarry was closer than I'd think.)
 
Mar 24, 2007 at 4:30 AM Post #37 of 111
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Why don't you stay at your place and you cook for her. Nice bottle of wine, candles and stuff and you can chat the whole evening.
I don't know if you are able to take her out for dinner??
As a girl I would like that. Has a romantic touch and you can talk in a nice enviroment.
Or does it has to be when the lights are still on outside, like not in the evening?


This is about every first date I've ever set up. I like it best if both the girl I've asked out and I make the dinner together. It's a nice way to get to know somebody and when conversation flags as it often does on a first date, you can fall back on talking about food and cooking. I prefer intimate interaction rather than grand romantic gestures.

steamed artichokes, although strange are a great and interesting food for a first date. Try them with an Italian dressing packet made with balsamic vinegar instead of white for a dip rather than just butter and lemon. It's an amazing combo.
 
Mar 24, 2007 at 5:57 AM Post #38 of 111
So it's been about 5 hours since we've last heard from you. What'd you end up deciding on, and how did it go?!
 
Mar 24, 2007 at 6:46 AM Post #39 of 111
many of the guys at my college hook up at the library. i know it sounds like a nerdy place, but there's absolutely no pressure there and it's a great place to flirt around.
 
Mar 24, 2007 at 7:18 AM Post #41 of 111
i'd just like to comment how some people get the notion that girls want to be treated like dirt for some reason. no, that's just a distorted version of aloofness. a woman will not be interested in you if you wait on her/are needy/try to bug her a lot. in my limited experience, i have learned that just acting like i have other things to do and she isn't my everything works fairly well. "playing hard to get" might be the word for it. showing attraction but not in a creepy "i think about you day and night" sort of way. it shows that i care, but that i don't care that much and i might even be interested in another girl, and she has to get my attention, which also helps me see if the girl is actually serious about it. it's worked 3 times so far and hopefully will work for years to come...

good topic, good advice.

edit: reread mrplow's first post. his 1st point goes along with mine in the "i care but i have other things to do also" thing. i might be a bit guilty of breaking his 3rd point, since i kind of listened to Ben Folds a lot when i was dating a girl who liked him last year. i actually like the music though so i don't think it falls into sucking up. in fact, he's on shuffle right now!
 
Mar 24, 2007 at 9:21 AM Post #44 of 111
^^^Agreed, but preface that with sneaking into your local physics department (like CVS, only more string theorists and less health) and hijacking the first projector system you come across to watch Brit comedy.

Don't worry, you can thank me later
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Mar 24, 2007 at 6:46 PM Post #45 of 111
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Originally Posted by mrplow /img/forum/go_quote.gif
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Ah, finally a topic I actually know a little about
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A few simple things, learned from guys much more successful than me with women.

1. If you don't know her very well, set a time constraint on the first date- it'll make it better for the both of you. Make plans with friends afterwards, and tell her for ex., "I have some plans with my friends around 10 pm (or whatever), but we can hang out until then." I know, sounds counterintuitive- but trust me, in case things don't flow or click, it'll make things much easier for you and her knowing that you're tied to some indefinite time period. It also lets her know that you have a definite social life outside her (very important).

2. I disagree with taking a girl out to dinner for the first date. I'm going to be harsh here, but it's boring and it's what almost EVERY SINGLE GUY before her has done. I'll concede that if she's just in her teens, then because she doesn't have a lot of dating experience it may be ok.

But by the time an attractive woman is in her 20s she's been on over a hundred of those boring (so what do you do, what are your hobbies, how's your family, etc zzzzz) dinner dates. A coffee date is almost as bad, but at least you can just use it as meeting place before skipping out to a new location.

Instead, find a place where the focus will not just be on you and her. In other words, don't put yourself in a situation where you are entirely reliant on the conversation as being the only source of interaction in the room. Especially when that awkward silence comes... yeah, you know what I'm talking about.

Rather, go someplace that has a 3rd source of interaction, something you can both take part in or even just discuss (rather than having to sit around and talk about yourselves for 2 hours). Even something really simple like going to the (Southwick
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) zoo or asking her to help you go upgrade your wardrobe (and women love doing this) will be better than a boring, predictable dinner.

3. Finally, don't calibrate yourself to her interests. What do you enjoy doing? So many guys out there (I was one of them) try to find something the girl likes and plan a whole evening around it (her favorite restaurant, favorite band, etc.). Bad, bad, bad.

Always lead (and I'm not saying be aggressive, forceful, or an *******) and be decisive. Open her up to a new experience. Use the date to show her that you're inviting her to a certain part of YOUR LIFESTYLE.

Take her to someplace special she can only experience with you, and not with her friends. If she's a punk/skater/artsy type, take her to something physical or athletic. And vice versa.

If she expresses dislike about, for example, your taste in music, your favorite food, your hobbies, etc. don't start apologizing or changing your opinions to try and win points (you're actually losing points if you do). Instead react the same way you'd treat a best friend- tease her about it, and say something like "Oh yeah? That's too bad because now you and I will never work out" with a sly grin on your face. Again, seems counterintuitive, but trust me- it works.



I could go on for much longer, but I don't know if I want to give away all the secrets of the trade.
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Anyways dude, best of luck, and let us know how it turns out.


I actually found this rather informative. Thanks
 
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