Zanth
SHAman who knew of Head-Fi ten years prior to its existence
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My father-in-law does this to us now. It is horrible
My wife is quite headstrong and although not high maintenance in terms of material goods etc, she is quite demanding of me in other ways. She was like this growing up I guess, not as bad as my daughter is demonstrating now, but close enough to resemble the traits and I get the warnings constantly from her dad. He tries to spoil our kids to get back at her, never outright maliciously but certainly he is enjoying grandfatherhood a whole lot more than he ever did fatherhood.
From anyone I speak with regarding the typical behaviour of boys and girls, our daughter doesn't break the mold there, which is both comforting and downright terrifying.
My son may be quite a bit more docile than other boys mainly because he has mostly interacted with girls who generally are more reserved when playing, they are not as rough etc, but thankfully he hasn't picked up any of the girls' skills of the trade (emotional blackmail, manipulation etc - holding out on kisses until she gets something, refusing to eat what is in front of her just to get what she wants and if she wins, she will then eat what we originally wanted her to eat anyway, etc).
Our son is certainly no saint, but he is a complete walk in the park compared to our daughter. Although he doesn't suffer from autism, he certainly seems to do better with a very structured routine. My wife has stayed home with him since day one and has been able to provide that structure for him. Wake time: 7 am, breakfast by 7:30, playtime from 8:00-9:30, snack at 9:30, 10:00 story time, 10:30 arts and crafts, 11:30 quiet time before lunch etc.
It is remarkable how he will act up particularly on weekends when the routine is usually not adhered to. If we attempt to maintain something close to this on weekends, his behaviour is right back to normal. Our daughter just goes with the flow, which is in a lot of ways great when we need to break routine. She is as happy with the structure as she is with the carefree saturdays out with her parents.
Originally Posted by ecclesand /img/forum/go_quote.gif One of the thoughts that gets me thru each day is knowing that at some point, they too will have children and I'll get to spoil them rotten and return them. Vindictive? Me? Nah.... |
My father-in-law does this to us now. It is horrible
From anyone I speak with regarding the typical behaviour of boys and girls, our daughter doesn't break the mold there, which is both comforting and downright terrifying.
My son may be quite a bit more docile than other boys mainly because he has mostly interacted with girls who generally are more reserved when playing, they are not as rough etc, but thankfully he hasn't picked up any of the girls' skills of the trade (emotional blackmail, manipulation etc - holding out on kisses until she gets something, refusing to eat what is in front of her just to get what she wants and if she wins, she will then eat what we originally wanted her to eat anyway, etc).
Our son is certainly no saint, but he is a complete walk in the park compared to our daughter. Although he doesn't suffer from autism, he certainly seems to do better with a very structured routine. My wife has stayed home with him since day one and has been able to provide that structure for him. Wake time: 7 am, breakfast by 7:30, playtime from 8:00-9:30, snack at 9:30, 10:00 story time, 10:30 arts and crafts, 11:30 quiet time before lunch etc.
It is remarkable how he will act up particularly on weekends when the routine is usually not adhered to. If we attempt to maintain something close to this on weekends, his behaviour is right back to normal. Our daughter just goes with the flow, which is in a lot of ways great when we need to break routine. She is as happy with the structure as she is with the carefree saturdays out with her parents.