IMO when it comes to tube sellers you have to consider how their business is oriented. vacuumtubes.net is and wants to be a wholeseller. They don't really want to cater to audiophiles and their specific needs/concerns, although clearly they dabble in it a bit because there's money to be made. Then you have places like Brent Jesse who will take the time to honor specific requests and do detailed testing including curve tracing to make sure the tubes are what you expect. The difference is reflected in the pricing. The wholesellers have lower prices because aren't adding service on top of things, they just pick a box and ship it out the door. They're naturally annoyed when asked to do extra things because that's not really how they have their business setup to operate. Spending time on special requests means they sometimes don't make money on that sale at the wholesale prices they use.
I'm not defending anybody here at all, just musing a bit on why we tend to see two clearly different pricing structures in the world of tube resale.
Then there's eBay which kind of exists in both worlds at the same time......