boomhaur
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Got married a little over a year ago, I merged a decent amount of our fiance's beforehand. We couldn't decide on a bank and neither wanted to use the others bank so we are using Ally, an online bank with good interest rates. So we have joint checking, savings, money market and CD. I ended up with a credit card from them and she is an authorized user and our joint expenses go on that.
Basically our paychecks go to the savings, than to the checking. From checking it's distributed to various other savings accounts (vacation, future house, emergency, and our personal funds)this is done to bypass the 6 withdrawal limit in the main saving account . And the credit card is set to auto pay to the main savings account.
So for us if we have funds in our own account we can spend it and there is no need to ask for permission. I can't justify some of my expenses to her and don't want to, and I don't understand her expenses. I want a motorcycle in 5 years I have the money to buy an used entry level one and good gear in cash, an expense she wouldn't let me justify probably ever. I will just have to convince her to let me ride it, which is another battle.
There are several ways to get fiancial stuff done while being married, just find one that works for both of you. And honesty is key for everything.
And read 5 Love Languages, both of you. The rules change once you live together, learn what the other needs specifically so you could focus on that.
Basically our paychecks go to the savings, than to the checking. From checking it's distributed to various other savings accounts (vacation, future house, emergency, and our personal funds)this is done to bypass the 6 withdrawal limit in the main saving account . And the credit card is set to auto pay to the main savings account.
So for us if we have funds in our own account we can spend it and there is no need to ask for permission. I can't justify some of my expenses to her and don't want to, and I don't understand her expenses. I want a motorcycle in 5 years I have the money to buy an used entry level one and good gear in cash, an expense she wouldn't let me justify probably ever. I will just have to convince her to let me ride it, which is another battle.
There are several ways to get fiancial stuff done while being married, just find one that works for both of you. And honesty is key for everything.
And read 5 Love Languages, both of you. The rules change once you live together, learn what the other needs specifically so you could focus on that.