this joke goes for Wink, a la Wink
[size=1.5em] Norma Lyon, a self-described dairy farmer’s wife and mother of nine who achieved fame well beyond the Midwest as the “butter-cow lady” of the Iowa State Fair, sculpturing tons of U.S. Grade AA salted butter each year into life-size figures of cows, famous people and, once, a diorama of the Last Supper, died on Sunday in Marshalltown, Iowa. She was 81.[/size]
[size=1.5em] Her family said the apparent cause was a stroke Ms. Lyon’s sculptures reached a vast audience during her lifetime, partly because she worked not just in Iowa but also at state fairs throughout rural America, and partly because the idea of a butter sculptor from Iowa was just irresistible to television people in the big city.[/size]
[size=1.5em] She appeared on “Today” and “The Tonight Show.” On “Late Night With David Letterman” in 1984, she showed up with a small cheddar-cheese version of her butter cow — to make it easier to carry, she said.[/size]
[size=1.5em] Her unabashed pride in answering all questions bovine during her appearance in 1963 on “To Tell the Truth” led the show’s panelists to pick her as the only possible authentic butter-cow lady of Iowa from among the three contestants all claiming to be her.[/size]
[size=1.5em] Asked on Monday how Ms. Lyon felt about her novelty appeal on TV, her daughter Michelle Juhl said: “She loved it, you betcha. My mom was a person who loved for people to know her work — and, by the way, she knew it was good public relations for the dairy industry.”[/size]
[size=1.5em] From 1960 until her retirement in 2006, Ms. Lyon’s butter sculpture was among the must-sees at the Iowa State Fair, attracting lines that snaked around the building where it was displayed in a refrigerated glass case. (One inspired writer likened the experience to “the viewing of the Pietà in the Vatican.”)[/size]
[size=1.5em] Her renown was such that Barack Obama sought her endorsement in late 2007 while campaigning in Iowa for the Democratic presidential nomination. Ms. Lyon complied, producing a 60-second radio campaign commercial for him.[/size]
[size=1.5em] “He knows our kids need opportunity here in Iowa so they don’t have to leave home to follow their dreams,” she said in the ad. “Even if that dream is 500 pounds of butter shaped like a cow.”[/size]
[size=1.5em] The online political journal Politico credited the ad with helping Mr. Obama win the state’s caucuses.[/size]
[size=1.5em] Norma Duffield Stong, known as Duffy, was born on July 29, 1929, in Nashville, the daughter of Benton J. Stong, a newspaper reporter, and his wife, Elsa. A grandmother, Bertha Clark, was a founder of the Knoxville Symphony Orchestra. An uncle, Phil Stong, was author of the book “State Fair,” which was the basis of the Rodgers and Hammerstein film musical of the same name.[/size]
[size=1.5em] Besides Ms. Juhl, she is survived by her husband of 61 years, G. Joe Lyon; 8 other children; 23 grandchildren; 5 great-grandchildren; and a brother.[/size]
[size=1.5em] Ms. Lyon studied animal science at Iowa State University in the late 1940s, when the American sculptor Christian Petersen was an artist in residence there. His encouragement, after seeing an ice sculpture she made for a campus winter festival, led her to take several of his studio classes before graduating in 1951.[/size]
[size=1.5em] She got the first opportunity to use her training in 1960, when she became the official sculptor of the Butter Cow, a life-size statue that had been the dairy industry’s symbol at the Iowa State Fair since 1911. Another sculptor had the job at the time, but Ms. Lyon convinced fair officials that she could do it better.[/size]
[size=1.5em] In 1984, Ms. Lyon began expanding her repertory. With fair officials’ approval, she made a life-size butter sculpture of Garth Brooks. Soon afterward, she followed with Elvis Presley, John Wayne, a diorama of “Peanuts” comic-strip characters, a Harley-Davidson motorcycle, a reproduction of “American Gothic” by Grant Wood (Mr. Petersen’s mentor) and, in 1999, her most ambitious work, “The Last Supper.”[/size]
[size=1.5em] “Her friends in town said, ‘Norma, don’t — it’s too much,’ ” Ms. Juhl said. “But my mom, when she wanted to do something, there was no stopping her."
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[size=1.5em] It is possible that the lovely young woman has a life-wrecking form of social anxiety. There are people too afraid of disapproval to venture out for a job interview, a date or even a meal in public. Despite the risk of serious side effects — nausea, loss of sex drive, seizures — drugs like Zoloft can be a godsend for this group. [size=1.5em] A BEAUTIFUL woman lowers her eyes demurely beneath a hat. In an earlier era, her gaze might have signaled a mysterious allure. But this is a 2003 advertisement for Zoloft, a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (S.S.R.I.) approved by the F.D.A. to treat social anxiety disorder. “Is she just shy? Or is it Social Anxiety Disorder?” reads the caption, suggesting that the young woman is not alluring at all. She is sick.[/size]
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[size=1.5em] But the ad’s insinuation aside, it’s also possible the young woman is “just shy,” or introverted — traits our society disfavors. One way we manifest this bias is by encouraging perfectly healthy shy people to see themselves as ill.[/size]
[size=1.5em] This does us all a grave disservice, because shyness and introversion — or more precisely, the careful, sensitive temperament from which both often spring — are not just normal. They are valuable. And they may be essential to the survival of our species.[/size]
[size=1.5em] Theoretically, shyness and social anxiety disorder are easily distinguishable. But a blurry line divides the two. Imagine that the woman in the ad enjoys a steady paycheck, a strong marriage and a small circle of close friends — a good life by most measures — except that she avoids a needed promotion because she’s nervous about leading meetings. She often criticizes herself for feeling too shy to speak up.[/size]
[size=1.5em] What do you think now? Is she ill, or does she simply need public-speaking training?[/size]
[size=1.5em] Before 1980, this would have seemed a strange question. Social anxiety disorder did not officially exist until it appeared in that year’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, the DSM-III, the psychiatrist’s bible of mental disorders, under the name “social phobia.” It was not widely known until the 1990s, when pharmaceutical companies received F.D.A. approval to treat social anxiety with S.S.R.I.’s and poured tens of millions of dollars into advertising its existence. The current version of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, the DSM-IV, acknowledges that stage fright (and shyness in social situations) is common and not necessarily a sign of illness. But it also says that diagnosis is warranted when anxiety “interferes significantly” with work performance or if the sufferer shows “marked distress” about it. According to this definition, the answer to our question is clear: the young woman in the ad is indeed sick.[/size]
[size=1.5em] The DSM inevitably reflects cultural attitudes; it used to identify homosexuality as a disease, too. Though the DSM did not set out to pathologize shyness, it risks doing so, and has twice come close to identifying introversion as a disorder, too. (Shyness and introversion are not the same thing. Shy people fear negative judgment; introverts simply prefer quiet, minimally stimulating environments.)[/size]
[size=1.5em] But shyness and introversion share an undervalued status in a world that prizes extroversion. Children’s classroom desks are now often arranged in pods, because group participation supposedly leads to better learning; in one school I visited, a sign announcing “Rules for Group Work” included, “You can’t ask a teacher for help unless everyone in your group has the same question.” Many adults work for organizations that now assign work in teams, in offices without walls, for supervisors who value “people skills” above all. As a society, we prefer action to contemplation, risk-taking to heed-taking, certainty to doubt. Studies show that we rank fast and frequent talkers as more competent, likable and even smarter than slow ones. As the psychologists William Hart and Dolores Albarracin point out, phrases like “get active,” “get moving,” “do something” and similar calls to action surface repeatedly in recent books. and they all live happily ever after, except Wink.[/size]
[size=1.5em] My apologies if its too short[/size]