[Tuberoller]

Here I sit on a saturday night,poking away at this stupid phone/PDA instead of "squeezing some bedsprings" like I planned to do. I hooked up with the hot nurse from my flu thread but I had to boot her today since I found her to be completely,utterly annoying outside the bedroom. As I'm poking this post on my phone she's trying to call me,proving my point. Vikki(the nurse) was really beautiful and was fantastic in ways I can't describe here but we have nothing else in common and that really sucks.

I took her to see a fantastic concert last night(one of the best I've ever seen or heard) and she said it was "Ok,if you like that kind of music". She constantly complained about everything from my driving to my stopping to talk to people. Her latest complaint was that she'd love to go some place where I don't know anyone. I guess it bothered her that we'd bump into folks I know nearly everywhere we went. She has no interest in music,dresses like a nun(a bad thing),never has any money(a very bad thing) and is really "clingy"(a terrible thing). The quotes in my sig are just a few of many that drove me stupid. Enough about her.

It seems that all the "available" women are screwed in some way. I can dig the ones that just want sex and I've met a few but that gets old fast. The other side of the coin are the Vikkis who want a husband and need attention and I just ain't built for that now.

I've met a few nice women but I guess I'm just turned off easily. There's a sorta nice woman living on my floor who says she's loves the music I listen to and she seems interesting but she looks like Barbra Streisand and that is not gonna do it for me. She also seemed a bit miffed when I told her I never tried the coffee she gave me when I moved in. I don't have a coffee maker and don't drink coffee.

I met this really nice woman in one of the CRP classes I teach and she's really great looking and seems interesting but she smokes and she set her purse on the back off my new car without even considering I might be upset about it. She asked me out but when I walked her to her car and saw how dirty she kept it,I had to bail. I guess I could almost deal with the smoking but I have to pass on an inconsiderate slob.

Then there's the woman at the Cingular phone store. She looks great,has a super body,a great smile and likes music but she swears like a guy and wears the worst fitting bras I have ever seen. I mean she looks like she's gonna blow right out of her shirt at any moment. She's got all kinds of bulges going on under there. In the only phone conversation I've had with her, she told me her life story,including why she has bad credit. Unless her bad credit is somehow going to stop her underwear at her knees,I could care less. Did I mention she lives with her mom(she's 32) and swears like a man? Her main saving grace is that she looks like Rosario Dawson and has a "phone sex" voice. Too bad she swears with every other word.

I guess I'm ranting and venting a bit but I'm frustrated and hate this. Anybody else going through something similar?

 

[GoRedwings19]

she can't be that super hot if she hates guiness...

 

[azncookiecutter]

Ouch, seems like we got a picky one here.

 

[mjg]

well,

join match.com... what do you exactly want out of a woman? There is no such thing as perfect...

 

[Tuberoller]

Ok,

I know I'm picky and I'm sure most of the women I've met feel I have some serious flaws too but c'mon,who wants to settle for less than what they really want?

 

[infinitefurby]

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Originally Posted by Tuberoller Ok, I know I'm picky and I'm sure most of the women I've met feel I have some serious flaws too but c'mon,who wants to settle for less than what they really want?

Yeah, I hear you there. I've been single for maybe the past six months, mostly because I'm picky and waiting for the right girl. Better than having to deal with the headaches of people like Vikki...

 

[lini]

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Originally Posted by Tuberoller (...) but I had to boot her today since I found her to be completely,utterly annoying outside the bedroom.

Is that supposed to be a flamebait for feminists?

Anyway, exploring the personality before exploring the bedroom capabilities might be a good idea in order to avoid major disappointment...

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Originally Posted by Tuberoller It seems that all the "available" women are screwed in some way.

Oooh, uh, oh - well... But, actually, would you really think the situation looks so much different from the other side?

So - 1st step - admit to yourself that you're screwed in some way, too. And, 2nd step, accepting that fact, now go looking for a compatibly screwed partner.

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Originally Posted by Tuberoller Anybody else going through something similar?

Well, I give it a try one or twice per year - nevertheless, I've been single now for... wow, 7 seven years already.

Generally, I think, people being much more individual today makes it much more difficult to find "the right one" (or better: one of the potentially right ones) somewhere out there. Especially as living single is perfectly possible today, so quite a few of the potentially right ones for everyone of us might already be "off the market" (= not interested anymore), being turned off by past experiences, and more or less happily living along as a single (as it seems, that often is: less happily at the beginning, but quite a bit more after a while, when one has got the hang of it...).

Greetings from Hannover!

Manfred / lini

 

[AndyRx7]

With all due respect...You gotta stop ultra-analyzing women to death before you even get to know them at all. You're focusing on the trees and missing the forest. Chill out, don't be so picky about the tiny details, and just focus on whether there's chemistry and you have fun *in general*. If you let things develop, you may find those annoying traits turn into idiosyncracies that you find very cute. Most couples do have 'pet peeves' about each other's habits, but the successful ones don't let them get in the way too much.

 

[kramer5150]

Been there and YES it SUCKS!! Gets worse the older you get too. In College it was a blast, at least we were all young... too young to get seriously messed up to far beyond repair.

Yes I dated enough hot, semi-flirtatious gals and come and go they did. Nothing ever materialized. It got boring. Pretty soon I was like Jerry Seinfeld, looking for and expecting character flaws in all my dates.

I guess I changed, and started see-ing the "inner beauty"... Shallow Hal I guess. I began dating women for other reasons than eye candy. Dated a lot of my volleyball girlfriends at about that time.

Today My wife is plain-Jane, modest, humble and down to earth. SHE LOVES RUSH, DREAMTHEATER and AEROSMITH!!!! Try finding an Asian gal (my preference) with those musical tastes!!!

Im not saying you should lower your standards ... NO!!! That's be the worst thing. Just try to see the whole dating thing in a different way... whatever way that may be. Its easy to pick out flaws... Takes a broad perspective to see positives. No Woman is perfect... just doesn't exist... no such thing. Broaden your field of view, see the positives, negatives and find someone that works.

2 BIG turn offs for me are smoking and profanity... I'd go for the first gal on your list. If she got irked that you didn't drink her coffee, It could mean she cares about you and hence was a bit sensitive (a plus), or it could mean she's got a problem with rejection (a bad thing).

Its like amp / can synnergy....

Garrett

 

[Lisa]

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Originally Posted by Tuberoller Ok, I know I'm picky and I'm sure most of the women I've met feel I have some serious flaws too but c'mon,who wants to settle for less than what they really want?

[Dr. Phil]
Nothing wrong with being picky, but what do you really want? Because with this:
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Originally Posted by Tuberoller It seems that all the "available" women are screwed in some way. I can dig the ones that just want sex and I've met a few but that gets old fast. The other side of the coin are the Vikkis who want a husband and need attention and I just ain't built for that now.

you make it close to impossible for yourself. (No offense.)

Maybe you should take things a bit more slow. Relax a bit, take this dating thing a little less serious and just see what happens.
[/Dr. Phil]

Anyway, good luck.

 

[Tuberoller]

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Originally Posted by lini Is that supposed to be a flamebait for feminists? Anyway, exploring the personality before exploring the bedroom capabilities might be a good idea in order to avoid major disappointment... Oooh, uh, oh - well... But, actually, would you really think the situation looks so much different from the other side? So - 1st step - admit to yourself that you're screwed in some way, too. And, 2nd step, accepting that fact, now go looking for a compatibly screwed partner. Well, I give it a try one or twice per year - nevertheless, I've been single now for... wow, 7 seven years already. Generally, I think, people being much more individual today makes it much more difficult to find "the right one" (or better: one of the potentially right ones) somewhere out there. Especially as living single is perfectly possible today, so quite a few of the potentially right ones for everyone of us might already be "off the market" (= not interested anymore), being turned off by past experiences, and more or less happily living along as a single (as it seems, that often is: less happily at the beginning, but quite a bit more after a while, when one has got the hang of it...). Greetings from Hannover! Manfred / lini

I hear you buddy and fully understand. I have some serious flaws too and I'd never expect any woman to just overlook them. I'm just complaining about the general practice of dating and why it sucks.

 

[chadbang]

My mentor Charles Bukowski says that most of us find out too late that there's nothing wrong will being alone. It's a vicious circle we put ourselves in. We want a mate, then we want out. I've been married twice and if something should happen with this second marriage -- I think I've learned my lesson enough. I'll remain single. Being married I have no time for liesure/art/work. Hell, I haven't been able to listen my MY STEREO in a year and a half (baby's asleep, daughter watching tv, wife doesn't like my music...) If there were away around the whole sex thing, I bet many men would soon realize that it ain't so bad being alone.

 

[stevesurf]

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Originally Posted by Tuberoller It seems that all the "available" women are screwed in some way...Anybody else going through something similar?

Yes, [size=xx-small]but I cannot get into this here.[/size]
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Originally Posted by mjg join match.com... what do you exactly want out of a woman? There is no such thing as perfect...

Yes, but, match is full of both wonderful people and those that will turn into an alternate personality at the right provocation - it can be scary.

This calls for a head-fi beerfest for all us single guys out there

 

[NightWoundsTime]

I'm single and attribute my lack of interest in "dating" to purely selfish interests. If I've got a woman hanging around it'll cut into my music listening/video gaming time, and that's just not cool!

 

[lini]

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Originally Posted by Tuberoller I hear you buddy and fully understand.

I think that's on mutual basis - even though I'm fairly sure that you are a macho with a little softie beyond, as much as I'm a softie with a litttle macho beyond (so maybe we're both somewhat outdated models, btw...).

However, as I might have a bit more experience in living single, hear the warning: One really gets the hang of it over time. Plus one gains a lot of spare time for perfecting one's little screwedness(es) - with the final goal being The Guru of Screwdom Nirvana.

Closely connected to TGSN is a clear vision for the future: So for myself I've decided to get very old (...hah, take that, mandatory pension system: The less profitable you'll be, the older I'll get just out of spite!

), very odd in an anarchistic way (sanatory personnel, beware! And prepare!

) and harmlessly, but helplessly horny (female sanatory personnel, especially beware!

).

All of this... uhm... surely sharpens the profile, but doesn't really increase compatibility.

Maybe you'd better resume your search soon.

Grinnings from Hannover!

Manfred / lini

P.S.: If anyone wonders about the "harmlessly, but helplessly horny" part, that's due to German language restrictions: Our word for a very old man over here is "Greis". However, I only know three specialisations. Tattergreis, which is the frail sort that trembles a lot, Mümmelgreis, the sort that seems to constantly suck their long gone teeth while sitting around on a comfy chair all day (felt slippers & plaid blanket over the legs included), and Lustgreis, the helplessly horny kind. Given that choice, my decision might become more understandable, I'd assume...