This is my own personal opinion and not intended as criticism on another way of doing things or looking at things...
I personally think you're being too exacting in your matching efforts. Some of the differences you mention are entirely visual and cannot possibly affect the sound character vs another tube with similar construction from the same era. I think the mild OCD tendencies we audiophiles often have can lead into audio nervosa pretty easily and tube "matching", tube "lore" and the greed of others feed that condition immensely. I would concentrate more on putting together pairs/quads that are definitely the same manufacturer with identical construction from the same era. When I say identical construction I don't mean identical twins, right down to the last freckle. If you get the manufacturer and the era right, the variances in how the getter material flashed or how the same shape mica was oriented won't mean a thing in terms of performance (electrical or audible). I think we've all heard tubes that were mind-blowingly good and rushed out to grab another pair of the same, only to find that the new ones - identical though they may be - didn't sound as good. This may be down to break in, or how it was used in its previous life, but it's also clear they can just sound different for no apparent reason. Give them some time and let your ear decide. If we're searching for good sounding pairs, we probably want ones that - shock alert - sound good paired up in our gear. If one has a tester it's also worthwhile to get a general idea of health, but being too pedantic about matching electrical performance isn't going to buy much audible joy either. Or at least its not going to insure it.
So when you say matched pairs are not too important for your gear it tells me you're: 1) Not selling them on to people who care about the electrical matching and 2) you are more concerned about cosmetics. This is an entirely acceptable and a valid activity if, as part of the hobby, you get enjoyment out of the process. But where you draw the line on what defines a match is your own comfort level. I get that you're just asking what others do, and fair enough. Are you asking to gauge where your own level of OCD falls on the spectrum? I say that in a gently kidding manner.
Cheers,
Robert