there must be some home secrets about EQ in the audio engineering business, even if it's about the mastering instead of the gear.
I remember something on dr olive's blog ... thx google http://harmanhowtolisten.blogspot.fr/2011/01/welcome-to-how-to-listen.html
it won't help to EQ but will help to listen. (although it is very long and a boring sometimes, don't expect to have fun with this). I remember it helped me get a general idea of what I should look for in a recording.
it showed me my limits(mostly in the high freqs), but also the limits of my gears. there is very little interest in using this software if you're just going to plug a crappy phone directly into your laptop HO.
and back to EQ I started with something like that http://www.independentrecording.net/irn/resources/freqchart/main_display.htm
I often come back to it when I try to get a specific instrument back.
the rest is how your phone will react, and that obviously means that you will need time and go by trials and errors. listen for a few days and see if it's ok, then go back to some minor tweaks etc...
my one advice is to abuse the EQ values when you're looking for a specific frequency, and when you found it, always EQ less than your hears tell you to. for 2 reasons:
-1/ you just pushed the 4khz to +8db to clearly hear what it does, your brain will now take anything lower as "not enough" for some times. like lowering the overall volume will instantly make you feel like you lost bass. and after a minute bass comes back. your brain will always mess with you so again time is a must for judging a given setting.
-2/ as everything in life, we beginners will always abuse. ^_^
I often make a parallel with photo manipulation(photoshop). beginners will tend to use loads of flashy stuff, too much saturation, too much contrast, too much whatever unrealistic filter, HDR and what not. and with passing years you often go back to subtle changes and just try to max out the quantity of available information instead of just max out what's impressive.
in photo as in audio, this usually gives an almost dull result. neutrality and balance rarely impressive, but that's where you get the most out of everything. it took me 10 years to get there in photo (not being a good photographer, just being ok with post processing), and it reminds me how far I am in my audio trip, as my EQ settings are faaaaaaaaaaAAAAAAARRRRR from neutral and subtle.
my nemesis in EQ is 3-3.5khz I hate it (mostly when battery guy is on cocaine), it is the frequency range that brings the most fatigue and stress to my ears. so obviously I tend to "slightly" eradicate it for comfort. no luck that's a major part for vocals and bringing the 3khz down also ruins my favorite voices. finding the right balance there is always my biggest challenge in EQ and I end up EQing almost everything else just to get the 3khz right ^_^.