Guy proposes to online girlfriend on message board.

[plainsong]

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Originally Posted by Computerpro3 Good point. However, I still wouldn't propose to her online. I have no objection with communicating online. But no matter what happened, on would get on that plane, buy her a ring, and do it in person. Period.

I always joke that my husband turned the tv on mute when he proposed. Now that's one thing that changed from VR to RL. In VR he was the ultimate romantic and not in a fake kind of way. In RL, his idea of a romantic movie is something about Rambo. Have to put that one in the category of Not Surprised though.

But for this guy proposing online, a lot of guys think proposing in a gorilla suit is just so romantic, so who are we to judge? I agree about it taking more than love, but he'll find that out, and it'll either be worth it or it won't.

 

[Comfy]

As long as people don't start proposing to ircbots, I think it's all good.

 

[Cjattwood]

This isn't the first time this kind of thing has been done. Rob Malda, aka "CmdrTaco" of Slashdot.org fame, created a story on the front page asking for his girlfriends hand in marriage. Luckily she is a geek as well

 

[firefox360]

I believe several years ago someguy proposed to his girlfriend on Slashdot.

Here's that original article: http://slashdot.org/articles/02/02/1....shtml?tid=166.

Although in that (Slashdot) case, they went out for several years, where as this guy just went out with her for a couple of months.

EDIT: oops, didn't read Cjattwood's post... Well I posted the URL for reference....

 

[jmmtn4aj]

Well, guys propose using cinema screens and newspaper ads, and they seem to get kudos for doing so. Personally I wouldn't propose on a messageboard.. or online at all.. but hey, to each his own.

 

[Kirosia]

I'd personally propose face to face only. To see her reaction, the look in her eyes, the atmosphere, hearing those two beautiful words, a priceless moment that sorta disappears when you use a medium like the net.

That said, jahn, will you be my hunka hunka burnin' love?

 

[GlendaleViper]

Hahahah. I got told indeed!

That being said, I would highly question the legitimacy of "love" in this case. I kept my post short for a reason though: I found the proposal creepy. Just creepy.

As mentioned, different strokes for different folks. To Plainsong in particular - I can recognize you have your reasons for defending the person in question, and I myself have no personal qualms with a relationship stemming from the anonymity of the internet. In fact, a good friend of mine is now married to a wonderful girl he originally met in a forum. But as posted earlier, a proposal that indicates attempts at suicide, bouncing from virtual girlfriend to virtual girlfriend and some truly "classy" language - especially directed at another girl has so many things wrong with it, I don't know where to begin.

Meeting someone and falling in love cannot be restricted by circumstance. Certainly can be creepy though.

 

[plainsong]

Yes, the guy is young, no he doesn't have a way with words, and yes he's immature. But for all that, look at your own sig, which would suggest that even in the face of such logic, love can still find a way.

Either way, it'll be a learning experience.

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Originally Posted by GlendaleViper Hahahah. I got told indeed! That being said, I would highly question the legitimacy of "love" in this case. I kept my post short for a reason though: I found the proposal creepy. Just creepy. As mentioned, different strokes for different folks. To Plainsong in particular - I can recognize you have your reasons for defending the person in question, and I myself have no personal qualms with a relationship stemming from the anonymity of the internet. In fact, a good friend of mine is now married to a wonderful girl he originally met in a forum. But as posted earlier, a proposal that indicates attempts at suicide, bouncing from virtual girlfriend to virtual girlfriend and some truly "classy" language - especially directed at another girl has so many things wrong with it, I don't know where to begin. Meeting someone and falling in love cannot be restricted by circumstance. Certainly can be creepy though.

 

[GlendaleViper]

Certainly, and for all it's worth, I would at least say that there IS a certain genuineness to the whole thing.

At any rate, must... change... signature. Logic... overwhelming... love.

 

[plainsong]

LOL, I was reading it to my husband, and he started to chuckle when I got the second line, where the guy is already mentioning his ex, and the whole tone of "ever since then.." and then has been weeks or months. You can't help but either cringe or chuckle a bit, but then I said "It's so badly said, but don't you remember that feeling?" (those who've been in a serious online relationship know that feeling) And he said "...yeah," and then with more conviction, "It worked for us, and we were idiots, so if nothing else he'll learn what love means." I replied "Hey, that's what I said."

You just gotta, to quote a long lost phrase, keep it real. Communication and words are ALL you have, so you better do it right.

 

[RnB180]

MMORPG has come a long way in terms of social interactivity. I remember when the internet was just beginning and analysists predicted that the world wide web was doomed to failure.

now we have people conducting virtual marriages in online fantasy games, no one wouldve ever seen this coming 10 years ago.

someone so involved in the fantasy world of virtual gaming to allow it to detrimetally harm his reality may need to reconsider his priorities. Call me old fashioned, but when the thought of committing suicide and allowing it to affect your surrounding reality and emotional health, tells me the individual considers the virtual reality a higher priority in life.

However I see nothing wrong with long distance relationships, online dating and penpals and so on. However I think anyone that starts blurring the line between virtual game world and real world, will have some issues. i.e. that whole thing about cheating on each other in the game world and thoughts of self harm as a result. Its quite a frightening thought IMO.

 

[afobisme]

yeah, i dont have a problem with the internet proposal at all (even if they had never met in real life before). i think the interesting (or funny to me) thing can be summed up with a quote from the open letter of his proposal: "i got drunk and attempted suicide, at which point you began talking to me again"

it's also the emphasis on the geeky internet activities. here's a list of what comes to mind:

- when he mentions talking to her on MSN every day, and pretty much "falling in love" with her over MSN chat
- when he refers to people via their in-game handles
- him being broken up with the girl for a few days and "nearly" dying because of it
- his lack of creativity (in his choices of words) makes the open letter a bit contrived, which i find entertaining. "my heart began to soar again"
- also, you can tell this guy is a kid. it's not just that he is emo (and in my opinion, this character definitely is), it's also the fact that he bans anyone who speaks up against him. you just KNOW, he's an emo kid who's hypersensitive.

to be honest though, im not sure if this is really real. i just noticed that there are tons of google ads, plus a "help rooh get to england" fundraising website.

 

[Uncle Erik]

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Originally Posted by Kirosia That said, jahn, will you be my hunka hunka burnin' love?

I'm on the edge of my seat waiting for Jahn's response.

I can see the ceremony now, with the minister binding their hands together with a Litz-braided silver interconnect.

 

[kg21]

i wonder if someone will have to use the phrase "it's a man baby" for the girlfriend

 

[afobisme]

you know, i wouldn't be surprised if they "rooh" decided to go back to the US after 2 months or so.

my friend met his ex-gf playing everquest.. she flew to him first, he got great sex so he convinced himself to move across the country for her. a few months after he moved in, neither one of them was "in love."