Guy proposes to online girlfriend on message board.

[pne]

i dont really see a problem with it. other than the fact that he proposed online.. its common for people to exchange letters with a stranger overseas and get married that way. which is way worse IMO.

 

[plainsong]

My husband didn't propose online, but he may as well have. We were a long distance internet relationship, so.. what of it? Are we sick? Are we depraved? Are we loosers? Anyone care to bring the aggro over here?

I personally think you see the worst of the net in discussion forums, such as the snarking here and at that site.

But if not for the vr world, from which online gaming is based, my husband and I would never have met, and no discussion forum idiot can take that away.

7 years still going strong. How's that for sick?

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Originally Posted by Taken from link Love with not letting the fact that an ocean stands in our way, nor the fact that your mother and your ex hate me. Love is the feeling I feel when I see you sign on. Love is the feeling I feel when you send me a message. Love is the feeling I feel when you call me. Love is the feeling I feel when I see you on webcam. Love is the feeling I have when I wake up in the morning knowing you'll be there with me in less than two months. Love is the feeling I have you for, and will never have for anyone other than you in my entire life.

Who the hell are we to say that he's wrong? You all are right, he could be. Things move so fast in online friendships and relationships. And intensity can be mistaken for love. And ok, so he's the king of typos, who am I to judge that?? His first line that I quoted says it ALL. We didn't let it get in our way either, and we're the richer for it. I wish him luck.

 

[feh1325]

i'm glad we won't be seeing any proposing of any sort here at headfi...not too many girls around

but hey! its the 20th century!

 

[PiccoloNamek]

Honestly, I don't see what the big deal is.

 

[plainsong]

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Originally Posted by feh1325 i'm glad we won't be seeing any proposing of any sort here at headfi...not too many girls around but hey! its the 20th century!

Hey, love is love, it's all good.

Anyone else going to point it out? No? Ok, I will. We're a century ahead of you.

 

[GlendaleViper]

Creepy. Just creepy.

 

[plainsong]

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Originally Posted by GlendaleViper Creepy. Just creepy.

Then you're at odds with your own sig.

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"Logic ridicules love, and love smiles knowingly at the whole foolishness of logic." - Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh

 

[feh1325]

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Originally Posted by plainsong Hey, love is love, it's all good. Anyone else going to point it out? No? Ok, I will. We're a century ahead of you.

srry, brainfart
after effects from SAT test

 

[pne]

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Originally Posted by plainsong Then you're at odds with your own sig.

you got told GlendaleViper!!

 

[SysteX]

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Originally Posted by feh1325 i'm glad we won't be seeing any proposing of any sort here at headfi...not too many girls around

Who ever said there have to be girls involved for one person to propose marriage to another?

Not trying to start a philosophical discussion here, just wanted to point this out.

 

[plainsong]

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Originally Posted by SysteX Who ever said there have to be girls involved for one person to propose marriage to another? Not trying to start a philosophical discussion here, just wanted to point this out.

Poor Feh, brain all fried from the SAT's and he can't remember what century he's in or anything.

PNE, I'll be honest and say I don't notice most sig's, not even my ultra-cool theme song sig made by Punslayer, but that one did just leap out and grab me. I'd like to hear the response.

 

[Jon L]

What really amazes me personally is that the institution of marriage is still going strong after all these centuries, even among young people who are modern, hip, and cool.

If I were so hip and young (I'm not), I would think I would question the intrinsic NEED for a thing like marriage. 50% of them fail anyway, proposed in person or on-line, right?

 

[Computerpro3]

I'm fairly young and one of my main wishes in life is to get married and stay married.

As for the topic, while I personally would and never have asked a girl out online much less propose marragie online, different strokes for different folks. They are obviously perfectly comfortable doing it so why not? And as for whether she is making the correct decision - she may not be, but who are we to tell her that. Suggest, perhaps, but not demand. They're not going to listen anyway. It's like when you tell someone not to buy Bose - you go over their house the next day and see a Lifestyle system in their living room.

And by the way, as for what that guy said love is, while I wish him the best, he forgot something huge which his marraige will not last without - love is also a commitment and a decision. Not just a feeling which will be there sometimes and won't be there sometimes (which happens in all lengthy relationships).

 

[plainsong]

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Originally Posted by Computerpro3 I'm fairly young and one of my main wishes in life is to get married and stay married. As for the topic, while I personally would and never have asked a girl out online much less propose marragie online, different strokes for different folks. They are obviously perfectly comfortable doing it so why not? And as for whether she is making the correct decision - she may not be, but who are we to tell her that. Suggest, perhaps, but not demand. They're not going to listen anyway. It's like when you tell someone not to buy Bose - you go over their house the next day and see a Lifestyle system in their living room.

Well, you say that now, but how you meet the right girl is how you meet the right girl. Would you deny that chance just because it's not how you imagined it would be?

Neither I nor my husband wanted to meet The One, and have that one be across the Atlantic Ocean and then some. That's not my idea of an ideal situation. And what if we had ignored it? What a shame. We got through it, the good times, and the trying times.. you try keeping a relationship together across an ocean. You try coming home and not even be able to give your SO a hug and a kiss, to spend time together, to have the chance to talk about everything and nothing. To live with the pain of not even having any physical contact. It's no picnic. And to make matters worse, you have @sshats, be they family or strangers, telling you it won't work, or your relationship isn't real. It's a living hell.

But we got through it, and here we are. Still going through the trials of everyday life, but facing it together. Yeah this guy in this thread is a bit of a young idiot. So were we. And we're still here.

 

[Computerpro3]

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Originally Posted by plainsong Well, you say that now, but how you meet the right girl is how you meet the right girl. Would you deny that chance just because it's not how you imagined it would be? Neither I nor my husband wanted to meet The One, and have that one be across the Atlantic Ocean and then some. That's not my idea of an ideal situation. And what if we had ignored it? What a shame. We got through it, the good times, and the trying times.. you try keeping a relationship together across an ocean. You try coming home and not even be able to give your SO a hug and a kiss, to spend time together, to have the chance to talk about everything and nothing. To live with the pain of not even having any physical contact. It's no picnic. And to make matters worse, you have @sshats, be they family or strangers, telling you it won't work, or your relationship isn't real. It's a living hell. But we got through it, and here we are. Still going through the trials of everyday life, but facing it together. Yeah this guy in this thread is a bit of a young idiot. So were we. And we're still here.

Good point. However, I still wouldn't propose to her online. I have no objection with communicating online. But no matter what happened, on would get on that plane, buy her a ring, and do it in person. Period.