I have nothing but good things to say about the BHC, especially with the Speedball. Don't think that you're losing much when it comes to the "better" stuff. For that price, it punches well above its class. I think it's a great combo with the VO, as well. But of course YMMV. With that said, your later comment about the mids and highs on the amp is kinda spot-on....
I would love to try the Crackatwoa (I want to buy one some day). I don't know how it would compare to the Mainline, which I used to have. I figure, though, that it would be a delight to own.
So you say the VO sounds a little "dark" with the BHC. I can understand this impression, and it's not completely wrong. I find that the BHC may have a lack of punctuation when it comes to the highs, and even though the bass slams like a monster (with stock 6080 tubes), and the mids are beautiful, it may be slightly anemic with the highs. I find the VO excels at the mid-high to high range, and you may be right in your impression that the highs are not so succint (and never close to sibilant) compared to other amps.
You stated that you have tried the 6as7g, which I think helps brighten the upper register a bit, while also reducing the bass a tad (I have a Sovtek 6as7g, if that helps for comparison).
Also mentioning the DAC you use is helpful. I haven't upgraded my stuff in years now, but when I want a "milkier" and more "organic" sound with the BHC, I find my AK120 is a great accompaniment. But when I use my AK320, it's much more precise, with more open clarity in the upper registry.
Thus, if you want to get more "neutrality" and clearer highs with your VO using the BHC, try the 6as7g with a more "tinny" DAC?
Finally, with the V281 pre-amped into the BHC and played through the VO... Wow. Speed, precision, bass impact, soundstage and clarity in the highs all seem to have a magical synergy. The BHC adds a slight "analog" touch and milky smoothness that rounds out the streamlined sterility of JUST the V281. So.... if you have a solid state source that favors precision, clarity, "neutrality", and emphasizes the highs - maybe combine that with the BHC, using a 6as7g, with the VO plugged in? I wonder what kind of magic would happen with that sound chain!