Personally the bigger the ddriver the Better the sound staging because more of your Actual ear is being shot with sound. so your ear lob and upper and outer ear can get the sound too. But The voice could has to be Wide to support the hudge cone
You're right. There's talk - down at the watercooler - that larger drivers are slower, because they have more mass to move; they also have more mass to damp. But the real culprit, slowing the development of 60mm drivers, is profit margin. Mylar isn't the dominant diaphragm material because it's the best choice - from the narrow perspective of sound. It has low mass, which makes it better than something stiff, which really would be slow. But the real reason for going with Mylar - or any other plastic film - is cost. These drivers are cheap to mass produce. The industry is also surprisingly conservative. Headphone manufacturers slavishly copy loudspeaker designs. There are precious few visionaries. Why take chances when the real money is in making a zillion units of something that's hard to screw up, and then packaging, pricing and distributing the thing with a certain efficiency.
The idea that headphone makers are sitting around dreaming up new ways to improve the product is probably a bit doe eyed. It's probably more realistic that the smart firms are watching developments in the loudspeaker world, with an eye toward exploiting a good gimmick before their neighbor does.
As for the idea that a larger driver would just be too slow, I think the use of filter cloth - on so many "audiophile" cans - is a tip-off, a bit like ordering a filet mignon and then asking for some A1 steak sauce. I've got nothing against this particular condiment. It's just that if the meal tasted right, in the first place, you wouldn't have to drown it in an extra product afterwards. If the driver were "properly tuned" in the first place, there'd be no reason to mask its high end with a filter cloth. This is also inefficient. If the driver had the right tone, extra power would not have to be spent trying to pump through a barrier. Grado doesn't (except to the degree that the front grill cloth is throwing itself on the hand grenade) but so many of its competitors do. I'm happy to vent the driver to get more bass, but if the driver were larger, it would provide more front-wave bass, without needing as much bass-reflex from behind it.
A larger voice coil means using up more copper, which cuts into the margin, but that's a spreadsheet problem, not a problem of engineering or acoustics.