I gravitated toward the 45 since I used mostly for headphones, not really need the extra watts. But if you're think may be both headphones and speakers, do get the 2A3, extra watts help the bass output.
Yeah, do agree on the neg. feedback. Tube amp is essentially a passive device, no need for feedback. As long as resistors, caps, inductors, and trannies are of high quality, should be ok.
On the silver OTP, a definite YEAH! If you can afford it, go for it! I have built a Jack Elliano's 45DRD (Electra-Print). It's a direct-drive: there is no tranny/cap coupling between input and output. Jack built me his famous 'partially silver plated' trannies, and it sounded freaking amazing! Conductivity diff. between silver and copper is ~3%, but couldn't believe how diff. the sound would be (i haven't done a careful test to see whether this was due to the DRD design). Jack's partially silver plated is just coating the copper wire, not a solid silver like AN, so a bit cheaper . Not sure Jack's still building custom trannies out in Vegas. But if you can get a hand on his silver coated trannies, get 'em.
Side note: for these tube amps, 300-ohm 'phones (H800 and the zmf) are hard to drive, i.e. you may not get the most power due to impedance mismatch. That's why the Zana, an OTL, is a much better matched as K3cT noted (tubes are high impedance). The OPT is typically winded to match to speaker imp. of 8-16 ohm. Driving 'em off-spec, say to 300-ohm, will limit the power the 'phones receive (it won't be one-to-one). No lower imp. 'phones in your collections?