Everything you said makes perfect sense.
I probably do have very unrealistic expectations. I tried the EQing (not extensively, but I tried), and did end up realizing that my issue with the headphones was that they didn't have enough bass for me. Which basically means I'm a closet basshead. However, I don't really know how to "properly" EQ, if that's even a thing.
These are the two settings at which I liked how it sounded. It wasn't perfect, but I didn't know what to do to improve it. At the volume at which it sounded good, the higher-pitched guitar, snare drum (I think that's what it's called), and higher vocals sounded just a little piercing to my ears, and the I felt the guitar "crunch" could have been a little more prominent (but it was probably masked by the gobs of bass). Yeah, that was it. I just tried reducing the bass boost and the guitar became more prominent and powerful, but the piercing noise I felt became worse. And I actually *like* the bass being that rattling. So I like the bass being that boosted, but I wish it wouldn't detract from the guitar, and wish it wouldn't sound so shriek-ey as a whole. Turning the bass up fixes that but it also detracts from the guitar I like being prominent. I'm not even sure if I'm making sense here.
So, these headphones *can* produce the sound I like but it takes EQing and apparently I generally want something much more bassy than what these naturally produce.
It's unfortunate that no headphones will blow me away as much as I'd hoped - it's a lot of money.
I agree, I probably mean distortion when I say aggressiveness. Apparently I like it? Or I'm just used to it.
I'm not sure how I would go about listening to other headphones in this price range - they aren't exactly common among people I know. Unless you mean just buying a bunch and keeping the one I like most, which, I admit, is a tempting option.
Anyways, regardless of what I decide on with regards to the sound of the Sonys, nothing will really change the issue of portability and that might prompt me to take them back anyways, especially if the changes in what I hear are as small as I'm being told they are between any non-crappy and any medium/high end pair of cans.
So, other options...NAD Viso HP50, B&W P7 or P5, Ultrasone Pro 750 or 900, V-Moda M100 with XL pads, ATH-M50x, Beyer T51p, Sennheiser HD-25 II...those are what I can think of off the top of my head, and I'm not sure that they all apply to what I'm looking for, which is something that I can wear around my neck OR folds well, has the sound that I recently discovered I want, comfort, and minimal leakage. I'm willing to go with supra-aural if I have to.
If it's cheap enough I could get a pair to wear at home/at the library/anywhere I would have a backpack to stow it, and then another much smaller pair that I can keep on my person (around my neck) if I want to. I just feel like $380 is too much for me to spend on these if I can only use them if I have a backpack to stow them in when I'm not listening to them, which I feel is the case, and especially if I need to rely on heavy EQing to get them to sound like I want them to.