people don't really seem to have an appreciation of how secondary, filtered and delayed our "conscious" experience of the world is
our brains are deeply hardwired to filter, censor, edit every piece of sensory input to manage our "awareness" to reinforce our egos, confirm our pre-existing bias/world views, secure our position in our social groups
this is absolutely beyond our conscious control - not a matter of "simple honesty", little affected by contrary experience once we have formed "workable" opinions, particularly after we determine that there is social reinforcement for these beliefs
these insights are a staple of modern perceptual psychology, specific to audio we have over a century of psychoacoustic perceptual research using the Scientific Method
read perceptual psychology studies, books, procedures - admit you are also human, also subject to these reasoning, perceptual errors, illusions
start using controls,level matching, Blinding in your listening evaluations - then report back to us what you "really" perceive