oh ok, so you have 2 problems here:
finding out how to get the best sound by setting up the volume at different points
and your playback loudness apparently not always sticking to what you had previously set.
clearly setting the speakers at max loudness is a bad idea on both accounts. that's how you might hurt yourself or blow up your speakers. only when they are maxed out can they really have a dangerous output. and you do not have to lower the volume everytime!
as a general guide, but you're not handling TNT here, this is really just some wide guidance for sound fidelity. set your computer volume rather close to the max( if you like to use your media player to change the volume level because like me you're lazy ^_^, then try to output the music in 24bit even when playing a MP3, that will give your some free bits to use as volume control). then the IDSD, I didn't know there was volume control on the RCA output, if you really want to be thorough, look how much max voltage gets out of the RCA output, and if it's close to 2V, then keep it maxed out or at least rather close to that, because that's what any powered speaker would be expecting. again it's not a perfect science, if you notice some extra background noise or clipping at some point, just change the volume level until you no longer have those problems. and if it always sounds the same, then you know you're worrying too much
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and then just set your speakers as loud as you enjoy your music and you're done for life. if you want to change the loudness again, do it from your computer if you're lazy like I am, or from your speakers if you're really scared about losing the quietest bits of the record. no need to touch anything when turning ON or OFF.