Good Lord, kelly, that's quite the shopping list... you'd need the whole rackmount encloure's panel space to fit all of those!
The "blockhead" version is already detailed in the original article on HeadWize; this would be necessary to implement all of your balanced/xlr bits without internally converting balanced -> single ended, which might have its own problems (I'm not sure though, not having ever done any balanced stuff).
Using the Gilmore circuit as a buffer for the Meier would pretty much double the cost of the amp, I'm guessing...
Custom stepped attenuators would mean Antness would probably have to solder them himself... dunno if he wants to do that, and he'd be quite justified in charging a fortune for labor.
The Neutrik COMBO jacks don't lock on the 1/4" jack, only the XLR. That's an interesting idea - to have one combo jack and one regular XLR - the 1/4" plug of the combo jack would be wired so you can plug in regular headphones, the XLR jacks for custom cabled ones (for Blockhead usage).
Steel rackmount enclosure - sounds cool, but steel is a @#%#!!! to work. Apheared, the great amp god, hated it... a nice alternative is a steel chassis with aluminum front/backplates. Like this one:
http://www.sweetwater.com/store/detail/CH2/
The WBT jacks, while they look cool, are a bit pricey for RCA jacks - ~$75/pair(!!!). Neutriks are always good for the money though.
Laser engraving -
http://www.frontpanelexpress.com/
That's exactly what you want. They do custom panels; pre-cut/drilled holes, recesses (like the way the switches are in the HeadRoom Max), etcetera.
antness: Sorry about jumping in and highjacking everything like this... hopefully I've saved you some research
while adding in my $.02 (well, more like $0.20)
As you can see, I'd really like to see the Gilmore go crazy