Do you like being Single or in Relationship? (Guys thead, girls are welcome to comment though)

[Taikero]

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Originally Posted by Kirosia /img/forum/go_quote.gif I can open a jar of pickles with minimal tears, will that do?

Only if she's pregnant.

 

[Kirosia]

I don't like my cake pre-baked.

 

[jonathanjong]

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Originally Posted by digger945 /img/forum/go_quote.gif ^Me too. Sometimes.

<hug> There, all better. I'm at the tail end of a relationship myself, and am unsure how to proceed.

 

[Rednamalas1]

quite happily in a good relationship for a while, after all the failed attempts for couple of years prior to this one.

 

[Taikero]

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Originally Posted by Kirosia /img/forum/go_quote.gif I don't like my cake pre-baked.

I forgot. Dancing.

Dancing is another way to impress women.

Like this!

 

[moo moo]

All I can say is being in a relationship can be the best and worst times of your life, I've been single for years but now I've been in a relationship for a year, and i seem to see pro's and con's for both being in a relationship or being single

 

[cash68]

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Originally Posted by Kirosia /img/forum/go_quote.gif I wish I could blame it on that. You know how people say most women really want a guy who's funny with a nice personality? It's bull. A cruel fairytale parents tell their ugly pathetic kids so they don't off themselves in the morning. Ok, I'm exaggerating a bit. Most of the girls at my college act like high school tarts, something I have an inherent bitterness towards. And the rest... I'm just not attracted to.

I used to be like that. You gotta up your game man. There are so many decent girls out there... and yes, most will shoot you down, but they'll shoot down almost anybody. It's a numbers game. If you're successful 5% of the time, and you only ask 5 girls out, probably going to be single for a while. If you ask 50 girls out... well.... you'll probably hit paydirt.

 

[Lazarus Short]

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Originally Posted by Kirosia /img/forum/go_quote.gif I've never been in a relationship. Or on a date. Or had a kiss. Pretty sure I hung myself two weeks ago.

We are not surprised.

 

[fatcat28037]

There seems to be a lot of confusion amoung single guys about what/how to make a lady like/thing well of you. Here's a few ideas......................

A sense of humor counts, big time. Show interest in her interests, Ask about her job, Out for dinner, butter her bread, Tell her she looks beautiful, go shopping with her, be patient, look her in the eyes when you talk, dress like you care about how you look, pick her up in a clean car, don't talk about you...ask about her. My two cents.

 

[kool bubba ice]

Maybe I'm cynical, but why get involved with someone, when 90% of the time it won't last. High school sweet hearts that get married and spend their life together is very rare.. Many people move on to mate after mate and never find the right one. Don't get me started on marriage, which is supposed to be sacred and 'forever.' Yet guys like Larry King is on marriage number 5. People marry too soon and for the wrong reason.

 

[obobskivich]

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Originally Posted by Taikero /img/forum/go_quote.gif So, either get to benching 225+ (10 reps!) with a six pack, or be really funny. The good personality will be appreciated in time, but won't hook any girl in high school or college (IME), at least not in the short term (A girl who's known you for a long time is a different animal).

I can do all of that, plus gourmet cooking, and getting a date is still not "instant"

IME, its more about having your "toolbox" (features of yourself, like strength, personality, looks, etc), and using that to attract a mate, but being involved in the moment is far more important to your potential mate

 

[Taikero]

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Originally Posted by obobskivich /img/forum/go_quote.gif I can do all of that, plus gourmet cooking, and getting a date is still not "instant"

You're funny?

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IME, its more about having your "toolbox" (features of yourself, like strength, personality, looks, etc), and using that to attract a mate, but being involved in the moment is far more important to your potential mate

True enough. Nobody likes the guy in the corner doing nothing. How many tools you have doesn't matter one bit if you don't use them while not asking for directions.

 

[obobskivich]

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Originally Posted by Taikero /img/forum/go_quote.gif You're funny? .

i'm not kidding, its actually kind of defeating to be viewed as the slouch or geek, even when I've taken it on myself to learn and do so much beyond that, I think the larger part of it is that I'm not actively pursuing any relationships, but I will tell you that even when I was interested in having a date "Every friday night" (for example high school, when I was in even better shape), its still quite hard even if you're "textbook perfect", really its just about how well you can talk your way into places (if you catch my innuendo)

at least with younger girls that seems to be true (I believe the term "high school tart" was thrown out a page or two ago)

so basically my point is, immaturity seeks immaturity, if you're collected, goal oriented, and mature, finding an immature mate is going to be hard, in other words you can't impress them with the sound of how awesome you are, however if you're going after a mature mate, the general response will be "sorry, I cant hear you over the sound of how awesome I AM", because they'll likely be just as hard working, goal oriented, collected, etc (if not moreso), the goal is, in my opinion and experience, to find a harmony or balance between the two extremes, you can't always compete with them, but you can't always compete for them

 

[baglunch]

Married, 2 kids, a dog and a house. Fulfilling the suburban stereotype. And happy. Totally lucked into her. I was a happy, sloppy, unmotivated bachelor before she met me. I didn't think she was what I wanted in a girl. More the opposite of what I thought I wanted, personality wise. She was one of those that was hoping to find a man she liked and reform him, and it's kind of worked.

It's not wonderful every day, but on the bad days, if you can keep a sense of perspective about how good it really is overall (assuming it is), it makes it easier to take a deep breath and go give her a hug anyway.

Some days you just have to be a man, suck it up, and do what needs to be done (usually means letting her get it out of her system, more hugs, and sometimes doing something about it).

To people who are single and have a nebulous idea that they should be in a relationship, that some important part of life is passing them by, I disagree. Actively pursue happiness. If that means going to bed at 4am on a worknight because you wanted to keep playing some game you are into, go for it. Be prepared for the consequences, try not to do it too often, but live your life according to your own rules. Life is where you are and what you are doing. If a compatible person crosses your path as you pursue life, they'll be more likely to be a decent match, and you won't be wasting your time in the meantime.

 

[obobskivich]

thats an awesome post baglunch

and just out of curiosity, is your avatar:

A) your child
B) your child wearing HD 580J's or HD 650's?