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You have no idea. I did divorces for a couple of years up in Oregon; it was miserable. The rest of the practice was criminal, bankruptcy and municipal. Criminal could be miserable but occasionally gave you something to feel good about. Municipal was businesslike and bankruptcy rocked. Really - it's one time you can tell clients exactly what's going to happen, when it's going to happen, charge a flat rate, and then everyone came out OK afterwards. But the divorces were always hell. 99% of the time one party doesn't want to get divorced and does everything possible to slow it down, derail it, make a mess, and anything else to cause trouble.
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I have a friend going through a divorce right now. Actually, three friends in three separate divorces. But one in particular.
He chased the wrong woman for half his life. About 8 years ago he finally caught her.
There should have been ample evidence at the time that he was getting into something he'd regret, but the heart wants what it wants, right?
She has issues. She has a whole subscription. She's got the back catalog and she's got the special binders that you can order from the 800 number. Commemorative plates and spoons, too.
He's never laid a hand on her or even raised his voice in her presence. He's given her everything she's ever asked him for. She's convinced that he's a worthless terrible man.
So she insisted that he divorce himself from her.
He resisted. She continued to insist.
She would, for example, call him at work and insist that he come home so she can yell at him some more about how worthless he is and how he needs to divorce her.
And he'd actually go home and let her harass him for an hour or so.
Ultimately, in the presence of credible witnesses, she gave him the ultimatum that if he didn't divorce her by a particular date, she would make sure that he would lose his house and everything that he owns and never see his children again.
So he got the best divorce attorney for embattled fathers in the state and drew up an agreement to offer her: he would cover about half ($27,000) of her personal debt and pay her down payment on another house, and in return she would go quietly, not remove him from his house, and agree to shared custody of the children.
She refused to agree to it. So he filed.
She made all the standard accusations of him being a bad father. He produced 17 unique signed affidavits from friends and neighbors detailing the many ways in which he is an exemplary father, and she could not substantiate any of her claims.
She claimed that he had supported her so she deserves alimony. He proved that not only had her income consistently matched or exceeded his, that she had evaded federal and state income taxes for the entire duration of their marriage.
The judge dressed her down in court for 20 minutes and told him that the only thing he'd done wrong was offer her too much money to leave, and that he wouldn't allow a settlement larger than $20k.
And then my friend did the unthinkable.
He withdrew his petition for divorce.
Word is that his wife has never been more furious in her life.
She screamed and ranted for two weeks and then filed for divorce herself.
It's not going well for her.