Do you like being Single or in Relationship? (Guys thead, girls are welcome to comment though)

[Nocturnal310]

My friend has a girlfriend and he doesnt seem too happy...she acts bossy...throws tantrums..can get emotional.


my other friend who is single....is bored..no one to talk to..no affection from a girl.


me...i dont have a girlfriend....but there are some girls in my life...i dont commit to any girl....(dont take it the wrong way)...i like it better than when i was single.


do u think its better to commit?

never experienced being in relationship...

how are they?...do u feel uplifted or congested?

also the single guys...do u think anything missing in your life?

 

[MaZa]

I love being single and freedom it gives, but I also sort of yearn for relationship though im not actively seeking one. Still, I fear selfish life and living for myself only will get boring and tedious if there is no-one I can share it with? So yes, I do not feel truly complete, but I cannot know for sure 'till I have been in relationship either.

 

[Omega]

One of my favorite teachers had a poster behind her desk that said something like:

"The 10 Secrets to a Happy Life"

1. Marry the right person, or don't marry.**
...
(9 other fluffy secrets)

**This single decision will determine 90% of your happiness in life, don't screw it up!"


Having walked the world for a while now, I must agree. Everyone years to find someone to love (and be loved in return). Figuring out what that means for you is the challenge.

I would encourage you to stop asking about it on Head-fi and engage in some empirical testing!

(edit: having re-read my comment, I didn't intend to equate relationships with experimentation with marriage...clearly they are different points on a broad spectrum)

 

[MaZa]

Hmm... Field exams...

 

[olblueyez]

I think its better to be honest up front and have some sexual friends if you will rather than letting 2 or 3 girlfriends get the wrong impression. I know its tougher to be honest, and it sure is damn inconvenient sometimes but it works out better in the long run. I met some real fun ladies this way and had a real good time and when I found my wife I wasnt looking at hurting anyone, been there before, really sucks for both of you.

 

[Uncle Erik]

I've been engaged twice and am now happily single. I'd make room for someone who is an excellent fit, but I will not pursue a relationship for the sake of having a relationship. Relationships always look happier from the outside, anyway. Don't be jealous of others' seemingly happy relationships - you never know what's going on in private.

 

[olblueyez]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Uncle Erik /img/forum/go_quote.gif I've been engaged twice and am now happily single. I'd make room for someone who is an excellent fit, but I will not pursue a relationship for the sake of having a relationship. Relationships always look happier from the outside, anyway. Don't be jealous of others' seemingly happy relationships - you never know what's going on in private.

Exactly.

 

[robm321]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Uncle Erik /img/forum/go_quote.gif I've been engaged twice and am now happily single. I'd make room for someone who is an excellent fit, but I will not pursue a relationship for the sake of having a relationship. Relationships always look happier from the outside, anyway. Don't be jealous of others' seemingly happy relationships - you never know what's going on in private.

I agree with this. So many around me are in a bad relationship, have lost their spirit and are trapped, yet they think they are happy (can't see the forest through the trees). I've been there too many times and will only commit to something that is right. I won't allow myself to feel trapped again (although I've said this before and ended up in the same situation

)

I think the best situation is a relationship that is right - where you can be yourself - are loved unconditionally (even when things are really bad) - and where both of you contribute and are open and honest. Anything less, and being single is preferred.

There are benefits and downsides to being single and married, but ideally being married in a good relationship is the best.

A comedian said it best, "You have a choice, you can either be lonely or aggravated". It was funny at the time he said it, but over time it has shown to be true.

 

[Carmantom]

Wrong guy here. I've been married 4 times and countless relationships. I am now content w/ my wife of almost 15 years. Maybe I learned some stuff over the years. I'm 58.

On the other hand some people ask my advice, since I probably made most of the mistakes. Through them I have learned to have healthy relationship. Commitment (scary), Love, Respect, and most of all Trust (blocking the exits- I'm here to stay through all the times).

 

[EnOYiN]

I've never had a serious relationship with someone else and I probably never will have one either. I'm not exactly a nice person to be with for a longer period of time.

I have been feeling like I've been missing out several times, however I think that's something pretty much everyone has every once in a while. You will miss out on something since you can't do everything at the same time.

For example: I've dropped out of school pretty early. I wasn't motivated to learn anything all the teachers had to offer me. I've missed high school, college etc. There are a lot of people who say that they did great things during that period of their life. I've missed all that. I went travelling instead. Have I been missing out? I don't know obviously. While I've never experienced the college life I've been experiencing a lot of other things which some people will never experience for the rest of their life. I don't regret the decisions I've made back then and even if I did I will still have to live with them.

To commit yourself to someone else requires that you give up a lot of your time in which you were maybe used to do other things you liked. I completely agree with Uncle Erik. Don't do it unless you fit really well together.

 

[mark2410]

single and happy that way, i know some people who need to be in relationships and whenever one ends they jump into another. i just need my own space far too much and dont think i could ever deal with all the clingy bull poop people put up with in an effort to feel validated, but hey do what makes you happy

 

[s1rrah]

Solo FTW.

 

[Jaw007]

Marriage is alright until you have a wife that has a hysterectomy.You cannot live with them any longer,the become sexually dead,and bitchy,and jealous as h--l!

 

[Ingo]

You just never know until you meet the right person. I had a few girlfriends and always felt happier whilst I was single. Then out of the blue I met a girl that is my match and now I couldn't imagine life without her.

 

[Ub3rMario]

I have a girlfriend of 2 years and one month. I love being with her. We constantly notice we seem different from other couples, because our friends who have a bf/gf complain about them. They fight alot, and we don't. What I have noticed is that I am completely honest with my girlfriend and she is the same with me. We talk about EVERYTHING.

Our friends who complain to us hold things back and keep thoughts/feelings hidden from their loved one.

So really...if you can find a truly honest person I think it'll work out. It's so much fun too. Hahah. I really don't feel I miss out on the single life either because she gives me enough space and if I wanna hang out with the guys i'll just tell her. No big deal.