Advice about my mother: should I buy headphones.

[CDBacklash]

Sup.
My mother does not seem to understand investing quality amounts of money in products, especially headphones.
At the moment I own the DT770pro and an etymotic ER4P (which I won for free).
I have enough money to pay for the costs, but will need to use her credit card.
She will not like the idea of me spending ~500 or so on a pair of headphones...

What should I do?
I really want the headphones, but I dont want to annoy her too much.

Pros:
Headphones
My money
Cons:
Her card
Her disappointment in my spending.

Advice is appreciated as I am in two minds about what to do...

 

[chews89]

It really depends on how dissapointed she would be if you did spend that much money on headphones. If you can convince her somehow that you've worked long and hard to achieve this goal(buying headphones), then that would be awesome.

But if she is very strongly opposed to you spending that amount of money, I would have to say don't do it. She is your mother after all, you have to obey and respect her and trust that she has better judgment. After all, she probably knows what is best for you(cliche but it's true).

I'm assuming that you're about 17/18 years of age since you're not in Uni yet. So if unfortunately she really doesn't want you to splurge, maybe wait for a bit. As you grow older, she'll learn to trust and respect your decisions more, perhaps.

 

[TheMarchingMule]

I used to be in your position the first few years of this hobby.

So I assume you're in the US of A. Do what I did, and run to Safeway at 3-4AM in the morning, and buy those debit gift cards. Then plug them into a Paypal...wait.

I just realized that these days Paypal wants you to have an account backed up with a bank account to be Verified.

Well, the biggest debit gift card you can get is $100, so...crud, Paypal really threw a wrench in this plan.

 

[Uncle Erik]

See if you can buy a gift or reloadable credit card at a store. They're available in the US - you can pay cash for a Visa, Mastercard or Amex. They hav the same number on them that credit cards do and you can use it to make online purchases.

You might also want to open a bank account and get a Visa or Mastercard debit card for it.

I don't mean to be a pain, however, you might want to listen to your mother, as well. She does have your best interest at heart. You might want to consider a less expensive option, such as buying a pair of singledrivers and building your own speakers. If your school has a shop, you could build them there.

 

[ert]

Wait. Save your money. The headphones you have are fantastic and would have been the envy of many head-fiers at your age. At the risk of sounding preachy, if my kid said he blew $500 on headphones, I'd be pretty pissed if he then turned around and asked for money for something like books or lunch money later.

 

[CDBacklash]

To clarify, im 20 and a graduate of a conservatorium. Im just returning to do a "regular" course at uni after several life complications that have landed me back at home and in the need for a steady job that doesnt require intense finger movements. I also have about $900 of spare change, about $70 of which is going into a DIY theremin kit.
Also, to clarify again, I live in australia which makes things fairly expensive depending on what you want (hence why the number seems higher than it really is)

 

[ert]

How is it that you are 20yo and asking these questions?

 

[CDBacklash]

Is it wrong to appreciate your mothers opinion at 20?
Is it wrong to ask opinions on what to do at 20?
I didnt know things were so concrete, considering I turned 20 on sunday.
I wish someone had warned me so I could have prepared!
Forgive me for sounding amazingly poor, but $500 is a lot of money.

 

[BloodSugar00]

Take command and control of yourself and your own life. You're 20 now, 2 years into adulthood. Your mother will have to realise and accept that and your right to independence and making your own (informed, calculated) choices and descisions, including finances. My 2 pence anyway..

 

[Shizelbs]

You are 20 and living at home? I am going to assume that your mum picks up the tab on a lot of your expenses. Its not unreasonable for her to expect that you might want to help out. Assuming she is buying the food, paying the utilities and mortgage, I too would be pretty pissed if my kid blew a huge load like that on toys.

 

[CDBacklash]

Typical graduation age is 17/18 depending on what side of the country you live.
Average degree takes three and a half years (some taking as much as 8).
I just turned 20 and already have a degree, but job opportunities have fallen through because I have RSI and as such can no longer do gigs.
I dont see how it's a bad thing to be living at home and be 20 years old considering most people my age (barely 20) wont even have a degree or a job to pay the rent and still do well at uni.
I moved out and had to move back in. I swear people on this site dont even read, and cant stay on-topic. The thread title wasnt "judge the OP". I was performing for money at the age of 13.
I pay the electricity bill which is eating into my savings because I cannot get a job currently (as I am too old to get hired to flip burgers and under-qualified for things outside of music). I teach music locally, but as I am not qualified to teach with an association and I do not play any of the "cool" instruments, cash flow is slow.

I do not consider my life to be a failure.
I want advice on this, not 'holy **** you fail'. Sorry my life isnt as easy as "kids have it these days". Thanks.

 

[CDBacklash]

Obviously I am just not good enough to please the older generations.
Maybe I should just kill myself. have a nice life.

 

[n3rdling]

Buy used gear at fair prices

 

[johnwmclean]

Quote:

Originally Posted by CDBacklash /img/forum/go_quote.gif Maybe I should just kill myself. have a nice life.

Buy the headphones first, at least you can die listening to great sounding music.

 

[mark2410]

well id say if your mother is unhappy at you spending money on headphones you could always remind her better headphones than booze and partys