[wrathzombie]

Nice Thread.. LOL...

 

[Mython]

I remember one lass I briefly 'dated', at uni.
 
I already half knew her, as a friend of a friend, but she had split up with her BF and ended up cuddling up next to me in a bar one night (I was with friends). I didn't reciprocate in any kind of romantic way that night; just enjoyed her company whilst chatting to her and my friends.
 
Anyway, a couple of nights later, she texts me and asks if I want to meet up with her, in town, which I was happy to do, as I enjoyed socialising.
 
We end up chatting for a couple of hours, no physical contact, and I think nothing of it; just meet up with a larger group of friends as the night goes on, and then end up going home with those friends.
 
One night the following week, she texts me and we agree to meet up again. Long story short, she ends up bluntly asking me if I'll sleep with her and I gently decline, saying "thanks but I prefer to be in a relationship for such things", and she never speaks to me again after that night.
 
Looking back, of course, I can see that she just wanted some physical intimacy, in the aftermath of her break-up with her BF, but at the time, I recall thinking it kind of funny that there is this stereotype that 'men only want 'one thing' out of women', and here I was with a girl who only wanted to know me for 'one thing'!    I felt so cheap/used! lol

 
Coincidentally, I ended up being good mates with her ex-BF, some time later. Funny how life goes...

 

[Armaegis]

appropriate comic of the day: http://thisisindexed.com/2013/09/meeting-people-takes-skill/

 

[blueangel2323]

  I remember one lass I briefly 'dated', at uni.
 
I already half knew her, as a friend of a friend, but she had split up with her BF and ended up cuddling up next to me in a bar one night (I was with friends). I didn't reciprocate in any kind of romantic way that night; just enjoyed her company whilst chatting to her and my friends.
 
Anyway, a couple of nights later, she texts me and asks if I want to meet up with her, in town, which I was happy to do, as I enjoyed socialising.
 
We end up chatting for a couple of hours, no physical contact, and I think nothing of it; just meet up with a larger group of friends as the night goes on, and then end up going home with those friends.
 
One night the following week, she texts me and we agree to meet up again. Long story short, she ends up bluntly asking me if I'll sleep with her and I gently decline, saying "thanks but I prefer to be in a relationship for such things", and she never speaks to me again after that night.
 
Looking back, of course, I can see that she just wanted some physical intimacy, in the aftermath of her break-up with her BF, but at the time, I recall thinking it kind of funny that there is this stereotype that 'men only want 'one thing' out of women', and here I was with a girl who only wanted to know me for 'one thing'!    I felt so cheap/used! lol

 
Coincidentally, I ended up being good mates with her ex-BF, some time later. Funny how life goes...

 
Sounds like you didn't find her attractive...

 

[Chris J]

  Sometimes beautiful people (not just women) also do not quite realize how differently the world treats them. Yes they recognize that people are attracted to them, that much is very obvious, but even just in general non-sexualized behaviour people tend to be "nicer" to those who are "pretty". They get more attention, preferential treatment, more benefits,etc. Oftentimes it's not even intentional from the person giving it, but it's human nature. On the flipside, sometimes there's the rare case where someone reacts negatively to a pretty person (beyond stereotyping), and that might not be intentional either.

 
Many years ago I used to date a rather attractive looking blonde young lady (or so my friends said), she was approx. 30 and had a good job and a Master's degree in Psychology.
One day she started crying the Blues.
She said she did not like it when people treated her like she was a dumb blonde: "I'm an intelligent, educated person with a good job in a managerial position, etc, etc"
I didn't have the heart to tell her the truth......................sometimes she really played up the dumb, flirtatious blonde thing, complete with fake Southern US accent. 
 
OTOH, my wife has pointed out to me that I often assume attractive blonde women are dumb and/or full of themselves and/or arrogant, etc.    
The funny thing is, I'm not particularly attracted to blondes.

 

[wrathzombie]

Once upon a time, there was an office party. My friend was very drunk and a girl at the party was also completely drunk. He was having a good time and putting a good show of drunkness for everyone (Dancing, Cracking jokes, etc.) I am sitting next to my friend and then the girl just comes in between pushes me out of the couch and sits next to my friend. He is holding his hand and whispering something in his ear during the entire party. After sometime, the girl gets up and says to the guy " I have to leave now". The guy just sits there and keeps drinking. After the girl leaves, I tell my friend. "Dude, she was all over you? Didn't you always want a casual one night stand"
 
My friend is flabbergasted, because he never realized that the girl was in fact hitting on him. He jumps up and runs out of the room. Next day, he calls me and tells me that after going out of the room, he called the girl and asked her to get off, wherever she was at that time. He caught a taxi, met a girl and then asked her if she wanted to comeback to his place. The girl tells him, she is not that type of a girl(even though she gets down in middle of no where when he calls her) and instead asks him to drop her at her house(where she lives with her parents).
 
Nothing happens for one year and then there is another office party. This time, my friend is sober and the girl is sober as well. She decides to leave, without telling anyone and calls him and tells him that she is waiting outside. I see him suddenly, running out and stop him. He tells me, excited that the girl called and she is waiting outside. He goes outside and they get into a taxi and he asks her " What now? My place." She says, no and ask him to drop at her cousins place. My friend calls me next day, completely mad and angry, feeling stupid.
 
A few months later, the girl is out on a trip with her GF's and calls my friend drunk and tells him he likes her. He tells her, that should go to sleep because she is drunk.
One week later, the girl shows up at the guys house unannounced. He tells her that he is not really interested in a relationship, and would not mind having a physical relationship.
The girl says, she is conservative and would only have sex with a guy who would promises marriage. The guy, respectfully declines and the girl leaves.
Incidentally, the guy lives alone in a place which is in the outskirts and not easily accessible. The girl has to catch two  bus and walk for about two miles to come to his house.
Now, every week on a Saturday morning, the girl shows up at his house. They just watch few movies, hangout and the girl leaves. They start texting regularly. The guy is hopeful about getting laid and tells me whatever is happening on a regular basis.
After a few weeks, when the girl comes, the girl becomes too cozy and they make out, but do not have sex because the girl says she is not ready. The guy tells her that he does not really have any feelings for her and if she feels like she is falling for him. She should stop coming to his house. The girl tells him, that she is totally cool.
This happens one more time and this time, while leaving the girl starts crying. The guy, tells her not to come to his house and stops texting or talking on phone.
The girl goes totally psycho and comes crying to his house one more time and tells him he should marry her. The guy is taken by surprise and consoles her and asks her to think about things.
One month passes and one day, early morning the guy is sleeping at his house and there is a knock on door. He opens and finds two old men and a old woman along with the same girl. They are from a woman's empowerment organization and as soon as he opens the door, they start shouting and screaming. The girl tells them that he forcefully, asked her to come to his house. Locked the door and tried to misbehave with her. The guy is flabbergasted. He then, gives me a call and I go with my another friend and try to explain them the situation. Eventually it cools down and four months later the girl is married to some other guy and my friend is still trying to figure out, what was it exactly that he did wrong.

 

[blueangel2323]

  Once upon a time, there was an office party. My friend was very drunk and a girl at the party was also completely drunk. He was having a good time and putting a good show of drunkness for everyone (Dancing, Cracking jokes, etc.) I am sitting next to my friend and then the girl just comes in between pushes me out of the couch and sits next to my friend. He is holding his hand and whispering something in his ear during the entire party. After sometime, the girl gets up and says to the guy " I have to leave now". The guy just sits there and keeps drinking. After the girl leaves, I tell my friend. "Dude, she was all over you? Didn't you always want a casual one night stand"
 
My friend is flabbergasted, because he never realized that the girl was in fact hitting on him. He jumps up and runs out of the room. Next day, he calls me and tells me that after going out of the room, he called the girl and asked her to get off, wherever she was at that time. He caught a taxi, met a girl and then asked her if she wanted to comeback to his place. The girl tells him, she is not that type of a girl(even though she gets down in middle of no where when he calls her) and instead asks him to drop her at her house(where she lives with her parents).
 
Nothing happens for one year and then there is another office party. This time, my friend is sober and the girl is sober as well. She decides to leave, without telling anyone and calls him and tells him that she is waiting outside. I see him suddenly, running out and stop him. He tells me, excited that the girl called and she is waiting outside. He goes outside and they get into a taxi and he asks her " What now? My place." She says, no and ask him to drop at her cousins place. My friend calls me next day, completely mad and angry, feeling stupid.
 
A few months later, the girl is out on a trip with her GF's and calls my friend drunk and tells him he likes her. He tells her, that should go to sleep because she is drunk.
One week later, the girl shows up at the guys house unannounced. He tells her that he is not really interested in a relationship, and would not mind having a physical relationship.
The girl says, she is conservative and would only have sex with a guy who would promises marriage. The guy, respectfully declines and the girl leaves.
Incidentally, the guy lives alone in a place which is in the outskirts and not easily accessible. The girl has to catch two  bus and walk for about two miles to come to his house.
Now, every week on a Saturday morning, the girl shows up at his house. They just watch few movies, hangout and the girl leaves. They start texting regularly. The guy is hopeful about getting laid and tells me whatever is happening on a regular basis.
After a few weeks, when the girl comes, the girl becomes too cozy and they make out, but do not have sex because the girl says she is not ready. The guy tells her that he does not really have any feelings for her and if she feels like she is falling for him. She should stop coming to his house. The girl tells him, that she is totally cool.
This happens one more time and this time, while leaving the girl starts crying. The guy, tells her not to come to his house and stops texting or talking on phone.
The girl goes totally psycho and comes crying to his house one more time and tells him he should marry her. The guy is taken by surprise and consoles her and asks her to think about things.
One month passes and one day, early morning the guy is sleeping at his house and there is a knock on door. He opens and finds two old men and a old woman along with the same girl. They are from a woman's empowerment organization and as soon as he opens the door, they start shouting and screaming. The girl tells them that he forcefully, asked her to come to his house. Locked the door and tried to misbehave with her. The guy is flabbergasted. He then, gives me a call and I go with my another friend and try to explain them the situation. Eventually it cools down and four months later the girl is married to some other guy and my friend is still trying to figure out, what was it exactly that he did wrong.

 
W...T...F... but I guess if you live in Neverland, what can you expect. lol

 

[wrathzombie]

   
W...T...F... but I guess if you live in Neverland, what can you expect. lol

 
So. I guess. I WIN

 

[Armaegis]

It's certainly upping the ante...

 

[Chris J]

So. I guess. I WIN

Yep.

Looks like you win.

That story is waaaay tooooo weird!

 

[TwinQY]

  Cracking jokes

Crack jokes are great. I don't know what he didn't see in her.
 
So when's the part where your friend calls the shrinks? I assumed he did. Otherwise I can't imagine how in the world this got resolved.

 

[wrathzombie]

  Crack jokes are great. I don't know what he didn't see in her.
 
So when's the part where your friend calls the shrinks? I assumed he did. Otherwise I can't imagine how in the world this got resolved.

 
Ohh!! that reminds me of the background. When I used to speak to my friend at work, he would always ask me, when the girl call or texted him.
Do you think this girl is cool?
Am I giving wrong signals?
Should I be doing things differently?
Should I be saying this or that?
 
Since, I got to hear things in detail over the course of two years and I never once discouraged him. He never told me anything alarming until the very end?
 
When everything was over, he said " Dude, I never expected this would happen."
And I said " Me neither."
 
It was a freak incident. Even now, when me an him get drunk. We would analyze the situation and say out loud "FAAAAAAK DUDE!!!"

 

[Mython]

A girl that insecure, needy and lacking in perspective will undoubtedly have a very unhealthy marriage... and when it ends, don't be surprised if she starts stalking your friend again...

 

[Armaegis]

Unless the guy is also that needy and insecure, in which case good thing they found each other.

 

[Mython]

  Unless the guy is also that needy and insecure, in which case good thing they found each other.

 
Yeah, but if he's so needy and insecure as to put up with a partner who's almost psychotic, there's a well-above-average chance that he may be controlling and (ultimately) domestic violence may become an issue.
 

 
 
Having said that, we both know that some people (not just female) have such low self-esteem that they stick around in spite of being on the receiving end of DV.
 
Human psychology is so messed up

 
 
 
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