I bought the Massdrop Plus IEM. 10 ohm impedance at 1khz. Apparently it gets lower and higher than that, because frequency affects impedance. I dont understand WHY frequency affects impedance.
If you looked at a graph of impedance vs frequency you may see how impedance changes. There are several mechanisms that can alter impedance with frequency. Basics are inductance (impedance rising with rising frequency) capacitance (impedance dropping with rising frequency, and resonances (electrical and mechanical) that are a combination of inductance, capacitance, resistance, mechanical and acoustic factors. Impedance curves are different for every headphone or IEM.
My source is currently an LG V20. Output impedance at 6 ohms. Does frequency affect output impedance?
Generally, no. Most solid-state output circuits have fairly flat output impedance curves. The same is not true of valve output circuits.
I'm pretty sure load affects output impedance.
No, load does not affect output impedance, but the two do interact. In the most simple terms, the source Z and load Z form a voltage divider. If the load Z is 8 to 10X the source Z at any point in the curve then the load has little effect on the applied voltage at its input terminals. However, if the load Z is lower than 8X, or in your case where the source Z is 6 ohms (how do you know that?) and the load is a nominal 10 ohms, that's enough that the load will affect the applied voltage at it's input terminals, and if the load Z changes significantly with frequency, then you'll have a frequency-dependent voltage divider (another name for an equalizer of sorts). This is not necessarily bad, though, as the IEM designer may anticipate the situation and even include the effects in his intended result.
And then the final major question: What is damping factor,
Damping Factor is the load impedance divided by the source impedance. So a high damping factor occurs when the source is much lower Z than the load. The idea is that a transducer with a signal applied is essentially a motor driving a mass. But the inverse also occurs, there the mass has inertia and resonance, which drives the motor which acts as a generator. When the back-EMF generated is driven into a very low impedance, the system becomes "damped", with the amplifier's source Z acting as a load, which controls unwanted movement in the driver. The fallacy is that it's really impossible to get an extremely high damping factor at the driver because, in the case of speakers, there's wire and a crossover effectively raising the source Z of the driving amplifier as seen by the driver, and in headphones, the resistance of the wire becomes a factor.
and how does it play in to all this frequency vs impedance vs output impedance stuff?
There are some conditions where an undamped resonance in a transducer may be effectively damped by a high damping factor amplifier, but in practice those cases are fairly rare. It doesn't change frequency response much, other than the fact that to have a high dampling factor the amp must have a much lower source Z than the transducer load, which in turn, makes resulting voltage vs frequency variances caused by the impedance vs frequency curve of the load quite minimal. Again, that may or may not be what the designer intended.
Remember, you have to consider the entire system, the headphones/IEM, the wire, the driving amp, and any mechanical or acoustic resonances. Looking at the numbers is a starting point, and in some cases, the ending point too...just not all.