It sucks I know.
My brother did something borderline against the rules in BF2. Basically it could have been interpreted either way and the servers rules themselves where completely foggy on the issue.
So anyway. Not only did he cope a ban. It was a permanent ban, without warning to all users on that cd key. So I got hit with a ban as well. Granted I had done some similar things in the past that I got away with so I can't give him too much stick. But really that is just wrong.
I appealed it and the admin flat out refused to consider it, the fact that he made a huge spelling error with my player name leads me to believe he put plenty of thought into, about how long it took to hit the reply button I'd say. Plus they didn't alter the wording of their rules to reflect this violation that is disputable as being against their rules.
So yeah. In the end I had to play on other servers. They were a bit worse at times but there had been so many seriously wrong things done on those servers which I got banned from, that other people didn't even get a slap on the wrist from.
Like my brother was in a vehicle, a clan member tked a player to make space for himself and his clanmantes all laughed and said they'd do the same. Only reason they probably spared my bro is hes a decent player and they didn't need his space. I've also been deliberately tked when trying to cap a flag as my team wanted to sit around it and baserape as they spawned.
The people that always claim 'hax0rs' usually suck and can't deal with getting beaten. I do get frustrated at times and there are some odd circumstances where something theoritically shouldn't happen but does. I've found usually though is that either the players good, they got lucky or something actually happened with the game. Like in BF2 the PKM a machine gun was tweaked to be insanely accurate, rather than claim the guy that just pretty much sniped me with a machine gun was hacking we both joked at how incredibly unbalanced they'd made it.