sisenor
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I feel confident enough to talk about this here I had this idea that we should talk about crying. I let myself cry even, like, weep for a little while tonight (I can count the number of times I've really cried for more than 5 seconds in the past 5 or more years on one hand) and it was therapeutic, giving me some release as well as insight that I'll mention. I also want to talk about another thing a little more later, because it needs, at least for me, to be said..just that women know about this a lot more than men do and they seldom, at least in my situation, let it be explicitly known. For those of you who have nurturing, reciprocating relationships with women in your lives, this part at least doesn't apply to you (I don't have a girlfriend right now), but I'd like to hear your thoughts as well as it relates to what crying does for you.
So, the first part was that I wanted to carve up a bit about me tonight and how I let myself cry for long enough to actually cry a few minutes ago. I'm sure it's clear from the way I'm being so candid about my--in particular--experience with crying that I don't cry often and that it may have been especially cathartic and that's because I've experienced likely a more than average amount of pain and stress over the last several years. So, I'm looking to talk to (and maybe really I don't need to even say this) but I'm looking to talk to people who don't view me as pitiable but understand--hopefully, because it's inline with what I think the niche of crying is in a healthy life--that crying should definitely occur when it should and when it's helpful and natural, at the same time not being too often to be conducive to feeling sorry for one's self nor not often enough or not ever. So, I cried tonight for a few minutes and was able to break through a couple walls holding me back and then I cried and didn't feel like I was feeling sorry for myself but kind of forgiving myself and letting my self help myself and get through some stuff. It's sort of hard to remember everything, but like if I felt like a crocodile tear or two came out I would be honest with myself and not cry then but try to allow any honest tears to come out and was relieved that a few did. And also, for few moments I let myself get pretty angry when I was crying, like about how I've let people take advantage of me and stuff, but I used it to squeeze that out of me and try to empower myself with it and also purge that negativity that was imposed on me. So, can you tell me some of your thoughts on this and your crying.
And then the other thing I was saying is just that I think it would be helpful for both sexes if women could guide men in this regard a bit more. Not just within intimate relationships, but also more casually, as I don't think showing your feelings more is going to make you vulnerable or hurt anything.
Well, oh well, worth a try for me to say this because, I know for myself, I'm going to try to let myself be more receptive to my emotions and when I need to empty the ******** from my psyche in the form of crying.
So, the first part was that I wanted to carve up a bit about me tonight and how I let myself cry for long enough to actually cry a few minutes ago. I'm sure it's clear from the way I'm being so candid about my--in particular--experience with crying that I don't cry often and that it may have been especially cathartic and that's because I've experienced likely a more than average amount of pain and stress over the last several years. So, I'm looking to talk to (and maybe really I don't need to even say this) but I'm looking to talk to people who don't view me as pitiable but understand--hopefully, because it's inline with what I think the niche of crying is in a healthy life--that crying should definitely occur when it should and when it's helpful and natural, at the same time not being too often to be conducive to feeling sorry for one's self nor not often enough or not ever. So, I cried tonight for a few minutes and was able to break through a couple walls holding me back and then I cried and didn't feel like I was feeling sorry for myself but kind of forgiving myself and letting my self help myself and get through some stuff. It's sort of hard to remember everything, but like if I felt like a crocodile tear or two came out I would be honest with myself and not cry then but try to allow any honest tears to come out and was relieved that a few did. And also, for few moments I let myself get pretty angry when I was crying, like about how I've let people take advantage of me and stuff, but I used it to squeeze that out of me and try to empower myself with it and also purge that negativity that was imposed on me. So, can you tell me some of your thoughts on this and your crying.
And then the other thing I was saying is just that I think it would be helpful for both sexes if women could guide men in this regard a bit more. Not just within intimate relationships, but also more casually, as I don't think showing your feelings more is going to make you vulnerable or hurt anything.
Well, oh well, worth a try for me to say this because, I know for myself, I'm going to try to let myself be more receptive to my emotions and when I need to empty the ******** from my psyche in the form of crying.