arnesto
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Way too many post to read here, I hope my post doesn't get lost.
I think I have learned something important about life.
I used to hang out with a bunch of guys that kept me company, but I later realized over time that none of my friends really loved me. I was just someone to pass time with, maybe someone to ask a favor for later, but that was it.
Now, if I hang out with any guy friends anymore, it's really only guy friends that don't try to use me and give me good advise. I'm getting smarter about who I hang out with now.
Same thing goes for finding a partner. What makes life meaningful? Well for me it is about having loving relationships. Meeting a partner, and it can't be 100% on looks, of course that's important. But when you meet someone, you have to really try to get beyond the physical aspect and try to understand the person. I think you have to ask yourself when you are dating someone, can I fall in love with this person?
To me, it is more important to have one person that really cares about me and trys to make my life better, then to have a partner that has no personality and is in the relationship because they see it as a benefit for themselves.
I'm not saying what's right for me is right for everyone, and younger people really need to date around and find out for themselves what they are looking for. But for me, at my age, I only want to be around people that love me.
There has been so many songs about this, I repeated the lyrics but I have never really felt it before. But recently I have listened to some songs by the Beatles and I really got it finally. And some other song, the lyrics go like this, "without love, it ain't much." and I think this should be the criteria that people use when they look for relationships.
I think I have learned something important about life.
I used to hang out with a bunch of guys that kept me company, but I later realized over time that none of my friends really loved me. I was just someone to pass time with, maybe someone to ask a favor for later, but that was it.
Now, if I hang out with any guy friends anymore, it's really only guy friends that don't try to use me and give me good advise. I'm getting smarter about who I hang out with now.
Same thing goes for finding a partner. What makes life meaningful? Well for me it is about having loving relationships. Meeting a partner, and it can't be 100% on looks, of course that's important. But when you meet someone, you have to really try to get beyond the physical aspect and try to understand the person. I think you have to ask yourself when you are dating someone, can I fall in love with this person?
To me, it is more important to have one person that really cares about me and trys to make my life better, then to have a partner that has no personality and is in the relationship because they see it as a benefit for themselves.
I'm not saying what's right for me is right for everyone, and younger people really need to date around and find out for themselves what they are looking for. But for me, at my age, I only want to be around people that love me.
There has been so many songs about this, I repeated the lyrics but I have never really felt it before. But recently I have listened to some songs by the Beatles and I really got it finally. And some other song, the lyrics go like this, "without love, it ain't much." and I think this should be the criteria that people use when they look for relationships.
