AudioDwebe
Headphoneus Supremus
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Whatever you decide, good luck.
I don't need her to be accepting of my hobbies, just as I don't need to accept hers. We have tolerated each other for 27 years...
Problem is, I'm the only one making a scraping by and shes going to be in med school for the next 8-10 years or how ever long med school is. To you it's immature, but we aren't 25 year olds.
Another problem is she doesn't do anything else other than school. It's how her parents raised her. So I can't say,"You get clothes, shoes, etc and I get headphones". The only thing she does is school (and some sports when shes not studying).
Haha, this thread isn't about me, it's about anyone and seeing how they approach this too common problem.
Hahaha, so in your case you guys accept each other despite hobbies? Since tolerance is a form of acceptance, that also works. Bit less shared harmony perhaps, but I can see where that would totally work.
So how is she accepting of your audio hobby? From what you've stated, seems all you did was get her to accept how some audio gear looks.
It's nice that you're able to have a mancave and consider the Wilsons but that seems rather irrelevant to the OP's issues.
I think I can see why you had relationship issues. Try including your spouse as a friend, instead of treating her like a hurdle that you need to clear to get what you want. Maybe find a way to combine some of her interests and hobbies with yours, like I did by getting her input on decor. That doesn't mean it'll all go your way, but in what real partnership does that ever happen anyway?
Net result = I have spent more money than I probably should have on my system.
Gain = with her help, my system has never sounded better. we both enjoy listening together sometimes, and discussing the music rather than the system now.
Maybe you can think about positively. If your gf was really into music/hifi, would it really be good for you?
My gf has more discerning ears than mine, and always made jabs at asking me to buy her new headphones or amps when she hears a good set..
Whenever she is not satisfied with my main hifi setup, she wouldn't hesitate to let me know how bad it sounded.. and this makes me feel like to upgrade.
Net result = I have spent more money than I probably should have on my system.
Gain = with her help, my system has never sounded better. we both enjoy listening together sometimes, and discussing the music rather than the system now.
So while I can bring home a $10k pair of cable and she won't flip out like most people's gf/wives will, she may be the one to tell me to buy it.... this has happened before.
The other bad side-effect is that sometimes I feel bad I spend so much on hifi that I buy her something from Chanel, so the expense increases. I ever asked her if I were to consider buying her a Birkin whether she would prefer a speaker instead, and she answered speakers, but wasn't sure if she was just trying to make me happy. haha
IMO, that sounds pretty cool. You should have her chip in if she doesn't like the rig though. I don't think it's your fault and your problem if the rig isn't "up to par" of her standards. This is of course if she works and hauls in money as well.
IMO, that sounds pretty cool. You should have her chip in if she doesn't like the rig though. I don't think it's your fault and your problem if the rig isn't "up to par" of her standards. This is of course if she works and hauls in money as well.
I'm sorry, I don't mean to ask a stupid question - but what exactly is the negative in that scenario?
Quote:I'm sorry, I don't mean to ask a stupid question - but what exactly is the negative in that scenario?
The part about spending more, and having to hear negative comments if your sound has an issue.
Um yeah, still not getting it.If you ever get to thinking those are really bad, try buying less gear. That is its own flavor of hell I assure you.
How important is music to you, do you love it or are you really a gear head?