It's readily possible with some music, such as movie sound tracks to reach well over that, due to the large amount of sub-bass. The demands on an amp will be very dependent on the music. For example, 105 dB at 1kHz is painfully loud, but 105 dB at 20 Hz doesn't sound that loud at all, due to the way our hearing works.1) You'll probably hear as much of an upgrade as you believe you should. In reality, it's probably indistinguishable once volume matched since the Arya is easy to drive only only requires about 214 mV, or like 0.0016 W to reach 94 dB while the Heresy can put out a little over 2.4 W into the Arya.
2) No, you already have enough volume range with the Heresy. The only benefit of going balanced is more power if SE isn't loud enough. There could be very very slightly better channel separation, but that is dependent on the amp.
The smaller amps, such as the Heresy and Topping equivalents, will quickly distort in the bass frequencies as the volume increases. This is both audible, and people have measured it (not that you need to measure something that is blatantly audible). Likewise, with many headphones, as you turn the volume up, the soundstage sounds compressed, something you don't get in a $400 or above amp (and, as you go further up in amplifier quality, the impression of the sound being amplified at all begins to disappear).
If an amplifier has been designed primarily as a balanced amp, then performance from the SE outputs will not be as optimal as they will be from the balanced outputs. This has given rise to the false notion that "balanced is better" in general.
Why does anyone here have to prove their experiences? Is asking for something this impossible really not just trolling?That's hardly proof.