Welcome back to the Solitaire T club my friend!
I'm truly overjoyed that your back with the Solitaire T, and re-enjoying it's
boring, super addictive sonic signature!
I tried to, politely, and not in these exact words, advise you that you may have buyers remorse. Not because Dali IO-12 is bad (you have given wonderful explanations on its strengths, weaknesses, and it is the second best hybrid headphone on the market!), but because you loved the voicing of the Solitaire T.
The areas where you wish you had better features, specifically volume control, I truly understand as something you require for your listening sessions.
However, I also now
strongly encourage you to buy a DAC/amp dongle that has both Bluetooth and single-ended and/or balanced outputs as well. This can serve as a better audio pathway from your Apple device, better volume control, and, if you ever wish to, a good portable amp for passive listening.
Note: I'm a big supporter of FiiO products, so this next section may be seen as heavily biased, but there are plentiful alternatives within the same vein of what I'm suggesting as potentially useful audio devices for Apple hardware:
First, portable DAC/amps: I think that the
FiiO BTR7 is a fantastic device, offering the latest Bluetooth specs, and most powerful DAC and amp in a super compact body versus the competition. This can bypass using a DAP, and turn your phone into an ultra powerful DAP, especially (USB-C) Apple iPhone's and iPad's.
Further, FiiO are making new models for Autumn/Winter 2024: BTR11, BTR13 and BTR17, alongside another model BTR15 (see
here).
This is my favoured option, to get the BTR7 now and trade in for either BTR15 or BTR17 (or any other model/alternative) when they are released.
However, there are many other brands with their competing products on the market too (it's quiet flooded really...).
Second, USB dongles; even more compact than portable DAC/amps, these devices are very portable and offer a good selection of features without bulk, but better for more efficient headphones (Solitaire T is fairly efficient).
FiiO offer
KA17 at present, but are introducing a new range-topper, but are about to release two slightly cheaper options (KA15 and KA10 respectively), whilst keeping older, cheaper KAXX products due to continuous sales. More deets
here.
Third, consider Bluetooth-only transmitters: very tiny and can be quiet an attractive, low profile solution.
FiiO have announced an affordable new transmitter, called BT11, entering the market later this year; see
here.
Hope these may give you an option to offer finer volume control, and superior audio pathway for your Apple iPhone!