That hospital thing does suck. Being called "the boyfriend" wouldn't irk me as long as my kids called me dad.
IIRC, i'll have to look into this again tho, u can have a drawn up marriage that is just as legal, just need a lawyer, the marriage thingy is just as legal but a lot the normal state marriage garbage is waived. But that has to be done in a way that still denotes something like a business deal, and i'm no Harkonen.
I'm just simply going to wait til i have someone to discuss it all with seriously before i get off my "hell no" horse and submit/commit
Oh, and what if both people are the "marriage is not important" type, think that'd work? i do. opposing sides of that are always gonna be at a head with eachother, but compromise is key in all relationships and you should never have to feel pressured into doing something. optimally, you should want to and they should want to, or you should want not and they should want not. you're right kelly its two-sided and there should be a consensus of opinion, on as much as possible.
Personally, marriage is a risk i will take only after much consideration, and i won't likely be the first to propose or suggest it simply because i feel i can live without it. I come from a family where my father has seen 7-8 wives come and go, i don't consider that a good view imprint to me of marriages track record. I used to want to marry for the longest time because i assumed it would do something that it simply won't; keep someone there with you and happy for all your years. (granted, this was a pretty early opinion
) I've seen step mothers come and go, use love, sex, lies, anything they can muster as weapons to screw my dad over, even before they wanted to divorce, and it was never his fault. (I know the details well enough.) Given this, my mind set will remain to be "no dice" when it comes to ME and wanting marriage, but if i sense she might want it, actually if i know she'd want it, i would propose, because by that point i'd have known her long enough to know how i feel about her.
Off to Vice City i go hehe