I'm not going try not to assassinate anyone's character in this response. That would be creating casualties instead of making specific points and my intention is to open the doors of a confessional booth, not scold or scald.
Originally Posted by lubczyk
I appreciate your feedback, I really do. In my culture, results speak louder than words. There's just lots of pictures, videos and gaudy marketing, it's really quite nauseating.
In some situations just being silent and working on your project until it's done is the best action, not tweeting the world of every little thing you're doing. It makes you look quite narcissistic.
1. I can understand that, in your culture (whether it be your country's or your skull's), tweeting, sharing photos of yourself and talking about your history might seem narcissistic.
But ask yourself: How is having a willfully public conversation in a public forum an act of humility?
Simply by posting here in a mood of disgust and disapproval, you're making your subjective feelings known to everyone. You're enshrining for the ages every mistake or lack of tact of which you might be guilty. Isn't subjecting yourself to that sort of micro-scrutiny an act of vanity, too? How is posting your feelings on Head-fi the opposite of tweeting, the opposite of narcissism as you choose to define it?
2. Instead of railing at Val Kolton, aren't you criticizing post-web communication as a whole?
Wouldn't you be better off condemning all celebrity culture and reality television? Shouldn't you be railing against all blogs (including your own, if you keep one)? Wouldn't it make sense for you to disrupt your local alcoholics anonymous meeting to tell whichever person is confessing his sins in public to stop being a narcissistic crybaby?
The problem is that you seem to be positing one standard of behavior for everyone else and an entirely different one for Mr. Kolton.
3. Mr. Kolton's approaching his company a bit like a performer, and he writes like one, too. I recognize this because I've been a performer all my life. In fact, I was one of those nauseating children who's applauded constantly for playing music and reciting speeches. The scrutiny only got worse when I began playing in bands and giving concerts.
When your background is in performing, the self-indulgent thing to do is *not* to perform, *not* to engage people, *not* to wear your floppy ventricles on your sleeve. To avoid taking risks would seem cowardly. It would trivialize your audience, in effect telling them they're not worthy of your best.
Mr. Kolton is a DJ who has played for huge crowds. He's also a CEO who talks to customers and a former Kid Techophile with a history of coding. Here on Head-fi, he's writing for an audience and talking to them individually at the same time. Part of his success as a pied piper has to do with his ability to stand onstage and make individual audience members feel important by singling them out. That isn't self-indulgence, it's discipline.
Making other people feel important is never an act of narcissism. Trashing someone else for making others feel important, however, *might* be a narcissistic act.
Mr. Kolton's inviting manner, the extras he offers semi-insider customers, and his music-vid-ready idea of industrial design, have created the slavering devotion to which you seem to be reacting. And, from the looks of your last few posts, I'd say you're reacting rather than thinking.
If you really want to show us you haven't been seduced by the pied piper, then you'll stop telling us how disgusting you find his tweets. That only shows you love the piper more. If you want us to believe you, then take a step back and stop reacting. An objective person isn't disgusted, they're unswayed.
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The last thing I want anyone else to do is change their personal style to fit my tastes. My interest in them might wane at any moment, and if they chose to listen to me and suppress their unaffected personality, they have would have to live with a compromised public self for as long as the damage lasted.
It isn't Mr. Kolton I'm defending specifically. It's anyone who takes the risk of being honest about themselves. Vulnerability is strength and mutation is evolution.
Here's to anyone with the will and drive to build a rocket out of what they love most and shoot it into the lava bed of the world's critical assessment. Here's to anyone who stays with that momentum, builds something even larger, and keeps the vulnerability with which they began.
Let's not have faux-manly stiffness in public places. Let's have kaleidoscopic contortionists and Herculean tear wrestlers. Let's have the full range of thought and emotion and not pretend we're more grim and glacial than we truly are.
Decorum is fine, but a vein of grace is finer.
Edited by scrypt - 10/3/12 at 2:21am